Your first time having lesbian sex can be pretty daunting and nerve-racking. So, if you need some tips on how to have lesbian sex, we’re here to help. 

Making out is wonderful (sweet mouths, conditioned lips, softness), and everyone loves playing with some awesome boobs, right? However, when it comes to the downstairs area, many girls get nervous when confronted with another vagina. First, we must clarify something. The lesbian porn you have watched is not realistic at all. So, if you were confident because you have watched a lot of porn, scratch that. All vaginas are different and they need different stimulation.  

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So, if you need some help on how to have lesbian sex, here is everything you need to know. 

You are not expected to be an expert at lesbian sex 

You must tell the woman you want to have sex with that it is your first time. If you are attracted to her and comfortable with this woman to want sex, you shouldn’t ruin the moment and mood by keeping your virginity a secret from her. 

And yes, it is okay to ask for guidance. Also, it is very hot for someone to tell you what to do with a sexy voice. It is crucial to communicate even during the act. And don’t be afraid or ashamed to say you have changed your mind about something. Trust your instincts and your partner to have enjoyable lesbian sex. 

Begin with mutual masturbation

If you want to learn how her body works and how your body responds to your partner, mutual masturbation is a sexy and amazing way to do that. Playing with your bodies is hot and the easiest way to learn what turns her on and how to do it like a lesbian goddess.

Also, it is important to have solo masturbation sessions. It is high time to learn how to masturbate like a pro. Believe us – your sex life will become more enjoyable once you get to know your body properly. 

Giving oral sex

Maybe this is the scariest thing when you have lesbian sex for the first time. Unfortunately, the hardest aspect of girl-on-girl sex is to give advice that fits all. However, starting slowly is always a good idea.

Part their outer labia gently and lick up from the entrance to the clitoris. You should lick up and down the labia. Be focused on the clitoris and lick around it with a circular motion. Don’t forget to vary the pressure. Insert a finger (or fingers) only if she is okay with that. 

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Understand fingering 

Most women achieve orgasm with clitoral stimulation. However, every woman’s body is different, so some may enjoy fast friction to the clitoris, while others may enjoy gently and slowly rubbing the outer lips. 

Do not be discouraged if you have to go through trial and error with your new partner.

The cowgirl position comes with a whole set of questions. So, we have decided to break down everything you want to know about the cowgirl sex position. 

What to do with the hands? What to do with the hips? What to do if your legs get tired? How to keep the rhythm? Can your partner tell you ate a big burger today? But the hardest part of mastering the cowgirl position is getting in the right mindset to ensure you achieve your orgasm. 

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However, we have some great “riding D” tips. Let’s start! 

The angle is everything for cowgirl 

Cowgirl does not mean you sit up straight on top of him at a 90-degree angle, but instead, you should lean forward slightly. In this way, you will get the most comfortable and the easiest penetration.

Spell the word “coconut” with your hips

Yes, you’ve read it right! This began as a Twitter trend, but it really works! Spelling “coconut” with your hips when you are on top will make everyone involved feel amazing! Using your hips to spell out this word in the cowgirl position requires a certain pattern of movement that feels wonderful.

The more you move when on top, the more complexity you will stimulate for both of you. Also, spelling a word will take your attention away from feelings like, ‘I feel nervous and exposed’ or ‘I am not sure how to move next’. Moving the hips toward a goal will give your mind something to think about, so it won’t fixate on any stressors. 

And yes, you can use any word you want. Any long word will require changes in direction, up-and-down, and round hip movement to stimulate great pleasure. 

Take over

Well, if you are all about making a cowgirl even hotter, you should hold his hands above their head. Better yet, you could use restraints or cuffs and tell him not to move. Taking the control away from your partner will drive him crazy! Any man would enjoy watching his partner as she shows him how she likes to ride.

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Use your hands during cowgirl 

Don’t forget to experiment with your and your partner’s hands. Your partner should put his hands on your hips for extra leverage. Also, if you lean back and place your arms behind you and on his ankles or knees will shift your weight when you get tired. To make things even hotter for both of you, you should play with your nipples or caress your breasts.

Be unpredictable

You should switch up the depth and speed of penetration so you don’t make a discernible pattern. It is best to start with fast, shallow thrusts, and let yourself slowly sink onto your partner every fourth thrust. But if you are struggling to find a rhythm, you can always alternate between grinding and bouncing or changing your speeds to suit your pleasure and comfort.

Doctors say that the best sexual partner during this time is someone you live with. But what about single people and one-night stands in general? 

Now, with the pandemic, we must rethink everything about having sex with someone we do not live with. This makes dating even harder than it already is. Other safe options are participating in online or phone sex, using sex toys, and masturbation. But it doesn’t seem fun as the real sex, right? 

We don’t say that sex is off the table, but experts do recommend being with people you live with. People should still be socially distancing, but given the length of this ongoing health crisis, it is unrealistic to expect people not to have sex indefinitely. 

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We cannot expect people who are single or don’t have a consistent sexual partner to abstain from sex. And besides using dating sites and apps, people need to go out in clubs and bars to meet a one-night stand partner. These places were closed for a few months, but now they are open and people want to meet new people.  However, doctors do recommend limiting the number of partners. 

Can COVID-19 spread through sex?

This is the most important thing to note. The virus is transmitted through respiratory droplets emitted when a person speaks, breathes, sneezes, or coughs. Well, sex usually involves physical contact – like heavy breathing and kissing, people are at risk of spreading or contracting the virus. However, there is no evidence that the virus can be transmitted through semen. 

Have safer one-night stands during the pandemic

Your safest partner is yourself, followed by a partner you share the household with, and followed by a person outside of the home that you trust. However, if you still want to have one-night stands, then you should minimize the risk of spreading or contracting the virus. 

Try not to kiss

Epidemiologists strongly suggest skipping face-to-face activities. So, consider having sex from behind. In this way, your faces won’t be close. But don’t forget to keep your mask on! This is good news if you are a fan of doggy-style sex or anal sex. These sex positions are safer than face-to-face positions like missionary. Yes, oral sex is a go, too, but you should consider showering afterward. Or maybe an oral in the shower? 

Yep, you need a mask during sex

These days, it is prudent to wear a mask if you have sex with a person you just met. During the pandemic wearing a mask that covers your mouth and nose is a good way to protect yourself and your partner during sex. Heavy breathing spreads the virus further, but a mask helps stop that spread.

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Try mutual masturbation

In the time of social distancing, masturbating together in the same room is a less risky option. You masturbate separately, but you can still be in the same place getting yourselves off without touching each other.

Try virtual sex

Your hesitation to have physical contact with someone new is a chance to explore other types of sexual contact. Include sexting, phone sex, and sex over video chat. Believe us – it will be fun, and you can still get your orgasm!