Okay, yes, we highly recommend you to initiate a sex talk because great communication means great sex. However, if you also want to figure out what you want to talk about before talking about it, well, we got you! 

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Stop licking their face – men hate that

According to men, this is something just for the screens. You are not sexy and you won’t turn him on. 

Men want to take it out of the bedroom

They love variety. So, you need to keep it exciting by exploring new areas to have sex, such as the laundry room, kitchen table, in the car, or even outside. Playing in new places can lead to more fun. Also, you get the opportunity to role-play.

Missionary is not the only one sex position

Sisters, don’t be lazy! Explore, there are many exciting sex positions you should try! 

Sex positions that will satisfy all your cravings

Initiate sex sometimes

Many men feel like they always have to initiate sex with their partners, and that annoys them. Men like to feel attractive and desired, so you should consider seducing your partner. If you initiate sex, you will send the message to your partner that you want him, and that will boost his confidence. 

Squeeze his penis firmly when he is close to orgasm

If you are giving him a blow job, when you see that he is coming to the end, place your hand over the base of his penis (just below the bladder). Press firmly and rub back and forth as you massage the area. This will intensify things.

Move the hand and mouth in the opposite direction

It seems logical to move the hand and mouth in the same motion, but obviously, the logic is not sexy. Most men will feel better if you move your mouth and hand in the opposite direction – when the hand goes up, the mouth moves down, so that they constantly meet in the middle.

Men want you to actively participate

To actively participate you should grind your hips, meeting his thrusts with your thrusts, and flex your PC muscles. These things you can do from whatever position. Also, use your hands to squeeze his arms and pull his body closer to yours. Don’t forget to use your lips to explore his body. These moves will let him know that you are into the action. 

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They want to be dominated 

Of course, they want to dominate you, but from time to time men want to do nothing at all. They want you to have control. If you are new to this, you can start by telling him he cannot touch, talk, or move unless he is told to. Tell your partner that you will punish him if he doesn’t follow your directions or disobeys. Boss him around and tell him how you want to be touched. Directing his every move will make him squirm. Don’t forget to remind him that you are in control.

It has been said that sex is like pizza: even bad pizza is better than no pizza at all. But this is not right! No one is supposed to constantly endure things they hate in bed! 

Finding out what your partner hates in bed takes time, and most people have to gain trust before they will discuss their intimate desires. However, these are some things that most women hate in bed.

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Women hate when you skip foreplay

Okay, guys, 10 seconds of kissing is not foreplay! No, neither is a short fumble around her breasts. Wait, save your eye rolls and groans. Women don’t ask for an hour-long, hot massage (not that they mind!). It takes time for women to warm up and for their bodies to respond to yours. It takes more for them to get aroused, regardless of their age. Simply sticking it in looks amateur at best and selfish at worst. You will make your partner feel more objectified than wanted. 

Trying to last for hours

Tell us, do you want a masseur massaging one spot for half an hour? Well, that is how women feel when they have a marathon intercourse session. If you are still going after 12 minutes (which according to many studies is the perfect length of time for a session) check if your partner is still connecting.

Women hate when you insist on them to orgasm 

Sometimes it is clear she is not going to orgasm. Just read the room! We don’t say that the reason is you; there can be many reasons that have nothing to do with you. Don’t get offended if she cannot. And more importantly, don’t insist! 

Giving her the silent treatment

You can be a hot guy who is amazing with his hands and everything, but if you are silent as a log, you are not as good as you think you are. Your partner will feel like you are bored having sex with her. Can you dance with no music? Well, that is like having sex with a mute. Maybe dirty talk is not your thing, but it won’t kill you if you give her a moan or two. Women want to know they are pleasing you, and that you are still breathing. 

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Women hate when you refuse to use condoms

IT seems like everyone is having sex without condoms nowadays. It is kind of scary. We are all for casual sex, but not for casually contracting an STD. Don’t try to talk her out if your partner insists that you wear a condom. It is rude and inconsiderate! It does not matter if she is on the pill or you just got tested. Women are more physiologically susceptible to STDs than men, and not to mention the risk of unwanted pregnancy. We know that sex feels better without a condom, but life feels better without herpes. Also, do not try to get it in raw just for the beginning. Last we checked – chlamydia does not adhere to a ten-second rule.

Whether you are preparing for your first or your 1000th blow job, you should read this article about different techniques while giving a blow job. 

If you are looking for more tricks and techniques or you want to know how to keep your mouth wet, or you are just wondering whether it is fine to just not give a blow job at all, you are in the right place. Whatever is on your mind, we got you!

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You don’t have to give a blow job if you don’t like 

Before even trying oral sex, you should know that it is okay if you don’t like it! If you have tried it and it makes you gag, or you just hate it, you do not have to do it at all! Many men will understand you and be fine with your decision. But if you come across a man who tries to guilt you or to persuade you, well, dump him! 

Going deeper won’t produce more spit 

Many people think that if they keep going deeper, they will gag, and produce more spit. Okay, but, but if gagging makes you feel like you are going to die, the ends do not always justify the means, right? Your body responds to deep-throating similarly as does to gagging. That is a defense mechanism preventing choking or swallowing. So, yes your body will produce excess saliva, but it is okay if you don’t like to hit the ‘panic’ button in your brain just to produce more saliva. Do not force yourself to gag to the point where you are uncomfortable.

It’s not you, it’s him

No, but really – many men cannot orgasm from a blow job. TV and all media make it seems like a blow job is the Holy Grail and that all men always want oral sex. However, a blow job sometimes is not enough for some men to go over the peak. We admire you that you want to be a sex magician who can do the impossible, but if your jaw starts to hurt, well, it is no big deal if you stop. Just don’t take it personally!

You do not have to kneel in front of him

Well, if that turns you, go for it! But, sometimes you would want to be comfy and keep the movement from where you are to a minimum. If you sit next to him, you can even change the sensation for him, and show off your ass. And that might make things more comfortable for you on the whole.

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You do not have to swallow

We know that every porn ever made shows people giggling while swallowing their partner’s hot, steamy cum, and act as they love that very much! Your partner won’t make a big deal if you dispose of his cum into a napkin or something. 

You won’t screw up this

There is one bad thing you can do before giving a blow job and that is underestimating your abilities. If you have got a mouth, you are all covered for giving a perfect blow job. It is okay to be nervous, but you can always read something about it or talk with your friends.