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Coming out as a bisexual in a straight relationship

Coming out or recognizing that you are attracted to both men and women, does not invalidate the love you have for your current partner.

Unfortunately, there are still many misconceptions and myths surrounding bisexual people.

One of the most prevalent is that bisexuals need to be with a man and woman at once. Most people assume that sexual orientation is stable – that whether you are straight or gay, you are “born this way,” and you will be that forever. And no, bisexuality is not just a phase, people can stay bisexual forever. But a bisexual person doesn’t need to pick a side either. 

Okay, so, coming out as bisexual in a straight relationship is not unheard of. However, people do not anticipate that a change is sexual identity will happen within a long-term relationship. Also, this topic is not widely discussed. 

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Despite the advancements in the understanding of LGBTQ issues in the past decade, many people fear that being bisexual when straight-partnered could destroy their relationship. People also think that a person in a relationship cannot be LGBTQ because they have chosen to commit. Bisexuals are presumably attracted to a person of the opposite sex. 

Don’t freak out if your partner comes out as a bisexual

Your partner can be attracted to both sexes, but still, be just as in love with and committed to you as they have ever been. Be grateful that your partner had dared to come out to you and was honest. 

Don’t start feeling insufficient to your partner immediately. Talk about it a lot. Your partner will explain to you how they have been feeling, what they want to explore, and how they imagine that could look within your relationship. Their sexual expression isn’t a reflection of your relationship, but about exploring a new part of themself. Once your partner explains everything, it is important to share your thoughts, and tell them how you are feeling. Take time to process it.

Don’t assume that your partner wants a threesome if he/she is bi

If your partner comes out to you, don’t assume that they are suggesting a threesome. They won’t stay with you if you keep asking them if some of their friends would be down for a threesome. Consider that they are only telling you because they want to be honest with you.

Of course, if you are both up for a threesome, why not? But, first, you need to support your partner and be excited that they discovered a new side of themselves. Then, you can open up your relationship or marriage if you are willing. 

There are ways other than sex for exploring bisexuality

Bisexuality doesn’t invalidate the love a person has for their opposite-sex partner. Remember that people can explore bisexuality while still honoring an existing relationship. And we know that everyone has different definitions of what it means to explore.

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The journey into one’s bisexuality does not have to involve sex outside of your relationship. Just becoming aware that you are attracted to other genders can be the extent of the exploration. The act of coming out to yourself has the potential to be affirming. 

We encourage you to consider the many ways you can explore your bisexuality. You can do this by watching same-sex porn or even writing your erotica.

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But if you want to include your partner in your exploration, the plan can include attending bisexual events, watching bisexual porn together, engaging in threesomes, role-playing in the bedroom, and swinging. 

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What is it like to have a threesome?

Well, before having a threesome, you need to make sure the bed is big enough for all of you to sleep in together afterward.

Okay, having a threesome now is not the best idea given the pandemic, but the idea of more people in the bedroom stays the most popular sexual bucket list activities. 

Our advice is to have a threesome in healthier times, but if you don’t want to put your whole life on wait, just do that with someone you trust. Okay, now back to the most popular fantasy. And no, a threesome isn’t a male fantasy that pop culture tries to portray. There are many reasons why women would want a threesome. So, no matter if you are a girl or a boy, you should be encouraged to explore it if it turns you on. 

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Whether you are in a committed relationship and you want to invite someone else in your bed, or you look to join a couple as their unicorn, or you just want to try something new amongst friends, a threesome is easier to have than you would think.

Yes, there should be planning involved, and the most important thing is that everyone is on board with the rules.

What actually happens during the threesome? 

You don’t have to be nervous – it’s still sex, and you know that you enjoy having sex. But, you will probably start with some booze, so everyone can relax a bit. During the foreplay, of course, there will be a lot of kissing and going down on each other. You can go down on someone, while you ride the face of the other person. And then, you can try every sex position that you want. 

It is your choice whether you will get fucked by both of them or you will just fuck them. But, you should be open to new things. You would never know whether you like your butthole to be touched unless you try! 

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What if the threesome doesn’t go the way you’d imagined?

Well, at least you tried, and don’t forget that everything gets better with practice. Wink, wink. It can be overwhelming and not as cohesive as you expect. But it can also be fun and balanced, and even a lot more fun than you thought it would be. If this is a fantasy of yours, we encourage you to try it!  

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Things to know before trying threesome

  • Everyone is stressed about whether it will be okay. But the more relaxed you are, the better the sex will be. 
  • Be open to try new things. So, any hot ideas you have been too shy to try before, throw them in now! You are doing something outside your comfort zone, so lean out.
  • If you are a couple, don’t make your unicorn your therapist.
  • Have extra condoms, even if it is one guy and two women. 
  • Music will help to set the mood.
  • Do not spend time spiraling in advance over what goes where and who is doing what.

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Gwyneth Paltrow released her first vibrator

Gwyneth Paltrow is no stranger to selling a variety of wonderful wellness products, like her bondage-style bras, vagina-scented candles, and crystal-infused water bottles.

Gwyneth Paltrow on her healthy lifestyle platform Goop has sold vibrators for many years, but the brand has never created one. Until now. 

When you think of Gwyneth Paltrow’s lifestyle and wellness brand, Goop, expensive vagina-related products probably come to mind. Who remembers the gold vibrator that cost $15,000? We certainly do! Oh, and do you remember the controversial jade egg or the 24-karat gold sex toy? And no one can forget the instantly-viral candle – “This Smells like My Vagina” that sold out in two hours. 

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Well, this Valentine’s Day, Goop added an item to their repertoire: the brand’s first vibrator.

Meet Gwyneth Paltrow’s extraordinary vibrator 

She announced her vibrator with an original post on Instagram. It is a pink and white vibrator, which is sold for $95 on the brand’s site. The intimate ‘wand’ doubles as a ‘massager’ and comes equipped with practical parts, such as a battery with an LED display. The vibrator has already sold out – and has a growing waitlist.

The new Double-Sided Wand Vibrator includes a bendy, slim end for internal or clitoral or internal stimulation and a ball-shaped wand for external vibrations. Both sides offer 8 pulsating patterns, and they vary in intensity. So, you will get 64 different combinations to choose from.

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The vibrator’s LED battery life is one of the features that you will appreciate the most.  It allows you to see how much charge you have left, thus you will avoid the awkward moment when your toy dies just as things are getting so much better. Her team spent a year and a half developing the vibrator, and they accomplished creating a toy that is pure art.  

They also wanted the vibrator to be user-friendly and versatile for anyone, regardless of people’s experience level. So, the vibrator’s pulsating patterns and unique sensations will bring satisfaction to an experienced vibrator user, but it will also be approachable for a first-time user. 

Of course, the vibrator’s silicone is “body-safe” and hypo-allergenic as well as chemical-free. 

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Sex is an important topic for Gwyneth Paltrow’s Goop

Sex is always an important topic for her brand Goop. The media empire is constantly boosting interest in sexuality and health through a series of announcements, workshops, podcasts, and even Netflix’s new The Goop Lab, which it’s a must-watch! 

Goop’s marketing department insists that vibrators not only help you experience sexual pleasure but also improve sleep, mood, and reduce stress.

Gwyneth Paltrow’s brand always aims to help eliminate shame and encourage sexual exploration. Thira Burns, MS, Goop’s director of product development, wellness, said “We start by listening to experts—and in this case, the best experts are women who are in pursuit of pleasure and seeking more. Through dialogue at past In Goop Health wellness summits, focus groups, and the response to our Netflix show, we learned that there was some simple utility missing from some of the most popular devices.”

What are you waiting for? It’s time for some intensive vibrations! 

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The sex scenes in “Bridgerton” are so important

In Netflix’s Bridgerton, the sex scenes aren’t just about naughty titillation (though we must admit they are hot): it’s about identity, freedom, and an exploration of self.

Throughout Bridgerton’s eight episodes, you will enjoy many sex scenes featuring locations from, a rain-soaked folly, a staircase, a beautiful stretch of lawn, and one very creative use of a ladder. 

Bridgerton is a handiwork of Shonda Rhimes. She adapted Julia Quinn’s Bridgerton novels that were long known as “Jane Austen with sex”. It is a hit, and if you still haven’t watched it, we strongly advise you to binge-watch it immediately! But even if you did watch it, you should stay and read about the real meaning of Bridgerton’s sex scenes. 

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It’s fun, sexy, and maybe a bit silly, but don’t be mistaken – Bridgerton is far more interesting and subversive than it might first appear. The cast will make your eyes water. It boasts wonderful costumes, extravagant sets, and sweeping storylines. It is a joyful, soapy romance, so it will lift your spirits, something which we could all use right now.

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Just be warned that you shouldn’t watch this drama series with your parents! On Twitter, one viewer wrote: “Unwittingly watched #Bridgerton with my parents. It got too awkward mid-way through episode, 5 so I faked a coughing fit and went to get a glass of water…for the rest of the series. Learn from my mistakes, friends.”

We won’t talk about the actual storyline because we don’t want this article to be full of spoilers. So, here goes our take on the sex scenes.  

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Bridgerton is a delicious tale of hot people and hotter sex 

The sex scenes are not there just to be there – but they are important for the journey of the characters. Those scenes are here to tell the story of the sexual awakening that the main character is having. Her journey into discovering her sexuality flips stereotypes in many ways. Her character has been raised to be a lady, so most of those sex scenes are to show how she comes into her sexually. At that time, it was thought that it is improper to tell girls anything about sex. They were supposed to wait and see what happens once they got married.

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Daphne experiences some things for the first time with Simon, and she doesn’t know much about sex in general, but that doesn’t mean she should be used in any aspect. During one erotic, rain-soaked assignation, one man whispers to his partner, “Do you like this? Tell me what you want.” Don’t forget that it is important to always get consent from your partner. And that you should care about what they want in bed. 

Bridgerton is an amazing feminist TV project 

The oral sex between Daphne and Simon was focused on her pleasure, which was a great change to the usual male-gaze we get in movies. So, what makes Bridgerton a feminist TV project is how all the sex is handled, openly reclaiming female pleasure and making its main narrative. Every woman in this world is allowed to enjoy sex without even the smallest hint of shame or self-consciousness.

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