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How parents should deal with bullying

Bullying ranges from threats, name-calling, hitting, pushing, spreading rumors, mocking, and shoving, to extorting possessions and money.

So, don’t just look for bruises and marks on their bodies. Bullying is intentional torturing in verbal, physical, or emotional and psychological ways.

Besides, with the invasive use of social media, unacceptable behavior can happen out of school via text messages, Facebook posts, and emails. This is known as cyberbullying and it’s particularly aggressive and hurtful. And the harmful effects of cyberbullying will continue in the school the following day.

How to know that your child is victim of bullying?

They’ll feel ashamed of telling you they’re being bullied. They are taught ‘ratting’ isn’t cool. So, it’s tricky to understand what is happening. However, there are some warning signs. Typical symptoms include fears, worries, not eating and sleeping well, and tummy aches. Their defense will be avoiding or withdrawing from things that stress them.

You should establish good communication with your children even when they’re in preschool. They should be informed before they have to confront it. Always ask questions about their social life and their friends. Ask for more details if you suspect a problem. 

Teach them coping skills for bullying

First, remind them it isn’t their fault, and they’re not alone. Make them feel secure, so they can communicate their problems openly. It’s crucial to nurture your children’s self-esteem. Encourage them to always appear confident. 

Identify and encourage their positive attributes and talents. This can help them better assert among his friends. The most important thing is not to the bullies dominate their life. Help them develop skills in a new area; encourage them to join an activity or club like self-defense or drama. This will build confidence and offers the opportunity to make new friends.

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Bullies usually want to cause a certain reaction. Teach your children to give the impression they’re not upset when someone is bothering them, so the bully will probably stop. Role-play such scenarios with them and practice your children’s response. Explain to them how our faces, voices, and bodies send the bullies a message the same way words do.

Teach your children safety strategies

Some situations may require self-defense, but your children can avoid it in most situations. Hitting back should be the last thing to do. Encourage them to try to get away and tell someone if they feel threatened.

Tell them some safe ways they can employ in dangerous situations. For instance, find a store or a ‘safe house’ close to the school where they can find refuge when pursued by bullies. Teach your children how to report incidents to adults and older children in an effective way. Give them a phone number of a reliable adult to call if they’re afraid. You should brainstorm and practice many strategies with your children to avoid additional victimization.

Get support from the school

Contact the school employees for help in ending the bullying. Share the incidences with your children’s teachers, and decide together how to approach the problem. Also, you need to request investigation and intervention by writing correspondence to the school principal. Include references to bullying definitions appearing in the state laws to urge the school to take action immediately.  

Take the bullying seriously and consider counseling for your children. Don’t need to remind you that bullying has caused tragedies like school shootings and suicides.  

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Lessons we learned from “Sex and the City”

“Sex and the City” entertained us for a long time. Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte, and Samantha have been our helpful friends through the years.

To be exact, from 1998 to 2004, they have left us with a legacy that goes further the duration of one of the best TV shows ever: “Sex and the City”!

The four women taught us lessons about life, love, friendship, and shopping that we can’t forget. And let’s admit – these lessons help us to get through our chaotic lives. So, we couldn’t be more excited to hear that “Sex and the City” is back! We are devastated that we don’t get to see Samantha in the revival, but we are still happy to see what our ladies have been doing through the years. 

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If we had not had this iconic HBO original, the thought of gathering with friends over cocktails to discuss masturbation and orgasms may have been a wild fantasy for many years. Who would have known 20 years ago, how much it would teach us?

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You can still be friends even if you don’t share every belief 

You don’t have to agree on everything and share every belief to be best friends. You will be much more of a good friend if you point out to your friends what they are doing wrong and speak freely out of your mind. Your friends will appreciate the honesty and be aware that whatever you say is for their good.

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Sex without love can be amazing 

“Sex and the City” showed us how wrong it is to think about sex as a nasty or even forbidden topic. We learned that it is fine to open up about it. They (especially Samantha) taught us that it is okay to have a little bit of fun – it is not a sin! Samantha was the queen of fun and sex! She taught us to enjoy the moment and that it is okay not to want a serious relationship, even though you are a woman. Every woman deserves to make her rules. 

“Sex and the City” taught us to be bold 

Do you remember when Samantha waited a few hours in a restaurant for the waiter to finish this shift? She thought he was hot, so she wanted to go home with him. She even paid the other woman still waiting to leave the restaurant. Okay, this is extreme, but you know what? It worked! So, if you want something, focus your time and energy on that thing! Go for it! 

Cheating (almost) always ends badly

Okay, we cannot forget the Aidan, Carrie, Big fiasco even if we want to. Even we all rooted for Big, and it felt good and right at the time, in the end, everyone involved wound up miserable. 

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However, we also learned that sometimes it is okay to forgive. We admired Miranda during her split with Steve. Her heart was broken, but she realized she truly loved him, and not being with him was going nonsense. She taught us that sometimes it is okay to listen to your heart. 

“Sex and the City” taught us not to force things

You should always remember that everything will happen in its own time. You can’t hurry love. You should ignore the pressure to find someone. Charlotte put so much pressure on herself to find her soulmate and live a perfect life, but she ended up marrying the wrong guy. 

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Always put yourself first

It is all good to look after your partner, but sometimes you must put yourself first. Samantha always made herself a priority, and she was right to do so. Who can forget the legendary “I love you too, but I love me more?”

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How to drink, eat, and be merry without getting fat

The holiday season is still here, and it’s time to drink, eat, and be merry! It’s time for good times, celebrations, and merriment! It sounds perfect, and it is, but not so much for your waistline.

A few glasses of wine, followed by prosciutto and cheese board, delicious pies, some spinach dip here, little puffy pasties there – and before you know it, you’ve added a few pounds. These little things do bring festive cheer and joy. And you don’t want to be like Ross from Friends and carry a holiday weight even in March.  

What if we tell you that you can drink, eat, and be merry, but still maintain your weight during the holiday season? It is all about balance.  You just need to follow these simple steps so you can stay fit this holiday season while still enjoy all the fun!

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Drink and be merry

Yes, you read it correctly. Prepare to do some serious drinking if you don’t want to gain weight this holiday season. You need to drink a lot… about 2-3 liters of water daily. We know you’re disappointed now, but with all the junk food and stress coming, hydration is crucial. 

Do you know that when you get the urge to snack, you’re actually thirsty and not hungry? Water is important for all bodily functions, but it also keeps you full. Also, you’ll avoid all the eggnogs you planned on drinking. 

Avoid snacking

Skip all the cheese, crackers, chocolate, and chips at the appetizer table. To avoid all that unhealthy stuff, have a hearty lunch or a light dinner before you go to a holiday party. You know it’s a bad idea to go grocery shopping when you’re hungry, don’t you? Well, the same goes for holiday parties. You need to eat before you go. If not, you’ll end up eating too many cookies, pastries, and pies.

And if you do feel like snacking something, focus on nuts, fruit, and vegetables instead. This will prevent you from snacking refined flour and excess sugar, which contribute to weight gain.

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Stay active and sleep well

You don’t have to set up your records in the gym in December and January, but you can stay active by getting daily walks. Also, if you don’t sleep enough, your metabolism will lower, and your calories will burn slowly. So, party all you want, but get your good night’s sleep, too. 

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Moderation 

Okay, now you’re thinking “But, it is the holiday season, not the time for a summer body. What if I want a piece of cake or a glass of wine?” Hey, have whatever you want! We won’t stop you. But if you decide to have a piece of cake, eat one, and avoid the other unhealthy foods. 

Also, we advise you to fill your plate with smaller portions of high-calorie foods like casserole and stuffing and fill in the gaps with nutrient-rich and high-protein foods. In this way, you can enjoy your holiday meals without overeating. It’s all about balance and eating in moderation.

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Dress to kill

You have been sticking to your training program. You look better than ever! So, show it off! Pick an outfit that will make you feel sexy. You can even treat you with a new outfit that boosts your newfound confidence.

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We’re trying to say – dress to kill your appetite! If your dress fits perfectly and you like how you look, you’re less likely to eat junk food and destroy your look. So, show up hot and fabulous, stay hot and fabulous, and enjoy the seasonal parties!

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Take care of your mental health during this weird holiday season

So, the holiday season is completely unrecognizable thanks to the pandemic. We know that is hard, so we offer you tips for how to cope.

The holiday and post-holiday season can be stressful at the best of times. But this time, several months into the pandemic, is definitely not the best of times. It has been hard to spend winter holidays away from loved ones and long-standing traditions. 

The holidays have looked different this year, but that, combined with the fact that we are still and will be in a pandemic for a while, makes this holiday season extra painful. There is hope now that a few COVID-19 vaccines have been approved. However, high-risk people and front line healthcare workers will be first to get protected, so that means our lives won’t be going back to normal just yet.

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And that is an even bigger bummer! We all thought that we “sacrifice” the holidays, but then we would get to live a normal life. But that won’t be the case for at least several months.  So, we know that all of us need help to protect our mental health while living through a pandemic during and after the holiday season.  

Plan tiny distractions during the holiday season 

Make a list of all of the tasks, hobbies, or projects you can do to stay occupied and follow up on each of them. Now is the time to learn how to cook and bake, organize your winter wardrobe, organize your library, watch black and white movies, or knit a beautiful scarf. 

Reframe your thinking

Stop telling yourself that you are staying home due to some crisis that is out of your control. That is frustrating! Instead, try to think that you stay at home because you are motivated to protect the ones you love the most. Modifying your holiday plans or staying at home brings us closer to the end of this pandemic, so next year we get to have back all our traditions. 

Go outside more than ever during and after this holiday season

You should find ways to spend time outdoors and experience the joys of the cold weather. This will make your days better. Bundle up and go for a walk, or you can even learn a new winter sport and have fun in the mountains. 

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Update your family traditions

If you miss the holiday traditions you have with your family and friends, see what you can do virtually. Make your special recipes together over FaceTime or Zoom and eat them together. Or host an ugly sweater party. The goal is to find creative, new ways to feel together even when apart. 

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Practice extreme coziness

Or like the Danish like to call it – hygge. This practice reminds us to appreciate the joys during this holiday season. Allow yourself to buy that soft onesie or blanket, curl up with a good book by the (virtual) fire, drink your favorite coffee, spend time with your pet, or treat yourself to a long bath.

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Ditch the pressure

You should know that it is okay to feel burnt out or stressed. Don’t put pressure on yourself to have a wonderful holiday season! We are all in this together, we all feel bad, so don’t feel miserable if you see that the others have perfect holidays on Instagram. They don’t.  

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