When you’re in a loving relationship, you’re constantly looking forward to living together. You go on a vacation or a weekend getaway and you have the time of your life!
You’re lying there together after your second round of sex and thinking how great it would be to wake up next to each other every single day. If you already live with your partner, I suppose you laughed at this part. The honeymoon phase won’t continue if you make the following mistakes when you start living together.
Not respecting your differences
Your differences will become evident when you start living under one roof. Your partner could be a clean freak, so accept the fact that you will be nagged if the dishes in the sink don’t bother you. Now, you cannot ignore your differences, so you should communicate more with your partner.
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Learn to respect your differences, but don’t act like you’re living alone; you cannot keep everything the same. Talk and make compromises. It’ll take some time to adjust to the shared life, but with good communication, everything is possible.
Not taking time for yourself
Yes, it’s crucial to talk honestly, spend time together, and be a team, but don’t lose yourself in the process. You can be in a team and make decisions together, but for one relationship to be successful, you must be satisfied with yourself first. Otherwise, you’ll be frustrated and that will lead to more fights.
Your friends, side projects, and hobbies still matter. If you don’t make things that engage you as an individual, the frustration will put unnecessary pressure on your relationship.
Not creating a financial plan
Bad financial habits can be a deal-breaker. When you start living together, you should discuss all financial decisions and share them equally. Decide together how much to save, how to budget, how to manage the debt if any, etc.
It’s important to set financial goals together. Communicate honestly and regularly about money to stay on the same path and improve financial health. However, don’t stress about it, such topics are normal now. Talk while you’re taking a walk or having a nice dinner.
Taking your partner for granted
You’ve moved in together, so you’ll stay together forever, and that’s it. Your job for the relationship is done. You start feeling as comfortable as possible, but that’s not healthy at all.
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Your relationship still needs to grow and evolve and that requires a challenging environment, not too comfortable. You can’t stop flirting with one another! Foreplay doesn’t only happen before the act; it’s every moment of your interaction. So, be playful and have fun!
Speaking of sex, you must spice things up a bit! You won’t be having more sex just because you moved in together. I know it’s counterintuitive, but it’s true. Spend more quality time together, do different things together, and keep surprising each other.
Cook together. And yes, by cook I mean have sex in the kitchen, even on the floor! Talk dirty to your partner; speak what’s happening in your body during the sex. That will arouse the situation. You both do anything to keep your sex life interesting. Sex will remain a fulfilling and fun way to connect even after your honeymoon phase.