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Ladies, here is how to master the cowgirl position

Okay, we have all heard of this position, but we know that it can still be intimidating! Being on top can be a little awkward for women.

The cowgirl position comes with a whole set of questions. So, we have decided to break down everything you want to know about the cowgirl sex position. 

What to do with the hands? What to do with the hips? What to do if your legs get tired? How to keep the rhythm? Can your partner tell you ate a big burger today? But the hardest part of mastering the cowgirl position is getting in the right mindset to ensure you achieve your orgasm. 

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However, we have some great “riding D” tips. Let’s start! 

The angle is everything for cowgirl 

Cowgirl does not mean you sit up straight on top of him at a 90-degree angle, but instead, you should lean forward slightly. In this way, you will get the most comfortable and the easiest penetration.

Spell the word “coconut” with your hips

Yes, you’ve read it right! This began as a Twitter trend, but it really works! Spelling “coconut” with your hips when you are on top will make everyone involved feel amazing! Using your hips to spell out this word in the cowgirl position requires a certain pattern of movement that feels wonderful.

The more you move when on top, the more complexity you will stimulate for both of you. Also, spelling a word will take your attention away from feelings like, ‘I feel nervous and exposed’ or ‘I am not sure how to move next’. Moving the hips toward a goal will give your mind something to think about, so it won’t fixate on any stressors. 

And yes, you can use any word you want. Any long word will require changes in direction, up-and-down, and round hip movement to stimulate great pleasure. 

Take over

Well, if you are all about making a cowgirl even hotter, you should hold his hands above their head. Better yet, you could use restraints or cuffs and tell him not to move. Taking the control away from your partner will drive him crazy! Any man would enjoy watching his partner as she shows him how she likes to ride.

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Use your hands during cowgirl 

Don’t forget to experiment with your and your partner’s hands. Your partner should put his hands on your hips for extra leverage. Also, if you lean back and place your arms behind you and on his ankles or knees will shift your weight when you get tired. To make things even hotter for both of you, you should play with your nipples or caress your breasts.

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Be unpredictable

You should switch up the depth and speed of penetration so you don’t make a discernible pattern. It is best to start with fast, shallow thrusts, and let yourself slowly sink onto your partner every fourth thrust. But if you are struggling to find a rhythm, you can always alternate between grinding and bouncing or changing your speeds to suit your pleasure and comfort.

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Sings that your partner is selfish in bed

Sex with your partner should provide pleasure, enjoyment, passion, and connection, but that’s nearly impossible if your partner is selfish in bed.

To experience all the beautiful things sex offers, you both shouldn’t be selfish in bed – you need to be equally involved.

Although orgasm is not and does not always have to be the goal when we have sex, when it is present, it should be the culmination reached by both of you. Today, women talk about sex more openly than ever, and many of them admit that they are still deprived of the big O. Women who have selfish partners, see orgasm as something unattainable and something that does not come naturally to them.

Orgasm is achievable when both of you strive for it. But if you are one of those women who don’t achieve orgasms very often, you may simply have a selfish partner who is not ready to satisfy your needs. Below you will find five things that point to this.

You do all the work

If your partner is constantly passive and constantly expects you do all the work, it is a sign that he is selfish during sex. Activity during foreplay, oral pleasure, and effort during sex should be equal. No partner should expect the other to do everything and enjoy the pleasure without giving anything in return.

He avoids foreplay

For many women, foreplay is a very important part of sexual intercourse, and many cannot have an orgasm without it. If your partner avoids that part and immediately goes to sex, it is a sign that he is selfish and he wants to satisfy only his needs.

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The importance of foreplay for an amazing orgasm

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He doesn’t fulfill your wishes

You should not keep to yourself any desires, fantasies, and things you want in sex. But if you tell your partner about them and he refuses to even try to fulfill those fantasies, you should know that your partner is selfish in bed. Okay, we know that no one should ever do things that make them feel bad during sex, but if your partner refuses things like foreplay, changing poses, or getting involved in sex, you need to talk more about all of this to see if there are other issues or if he is selfish.

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Your partner is focused only on his needs

Sex should always be an activity enjoyed by both of you. If your partner asks you to do something that only he wants or if he gets angry when you refuse to do something that makes you feel bad, it is a sign that he is selfish. Also, your partner should not be focused only on his orgasm during sex, but also on your desires.

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Your partner believes that he has the right to have sex whenever he wants

Selfishness in sex is often manifested in the demand for sex and rejection. A person who thinks he has the right to have sex at any time and who can say “no” to you, but does not accept “no” from you, is not only selfish but also dangerous.

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Mistakes men make in bed

Sex is amazing, of course. But sometimes, either when men try something new or when they are caught up in the moment, the sex can be no so good.

Men, it is really important to be good in bed, because if you do not have the moves and skills to satisfy women, they will be quick to let you go. 

Here are the sex mistakes men make in bed way too often. These things they do during sex can end up killing the mood. Dudes, make sure you aren’t doing any of them.

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What makes a woman good in bed?

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They move too quickly to genital touch

When they finally understand how long it takes to arouse a lady, they want to start the process immediately. They like their genitals stimulated directly, so they assume women would want the same. However, they should allow the woman to prepare psychologically because the early stimulation is not exciting for women. Instead, you should spend some time massaging and kissing her whole body.

Stimulating her vagina instead of her clitoris

For the last time – what you feel on your penis is not what women feel in their vaginas. Feeling in the penis is based on touch, but in the vagina, the sensation is created by pressure and stretch. For women, the clitoris parallels penile sensation (except her anatomy is more sensitive and delicate). The clitoris is the center of women’s sexual universe. However, it gets harder. Finding the clit is only half of the job. Some of you need to work on their techniques once they are down there. To start, don’t treat the clitoris like you are scrubbing a pan clean. 

They have high expectations due to watching porn

Not everything you see on porn can be done in your bedroom. Maybe your partner is not into everything you have seen online and is not physically capable of doing all that stuff, or maybe they just do not want to. Always listen to your woman’s needs – that’s crucial. Porn also skips foreplay-and-lube events, which are important. We know by now that sipping these steps can be painful.

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They do not respond to women’s needs

When a woman tells you to keep going, and she likes it, don’t start to speed up or change your tempo. She liked it the way it was before. If she moans, that does not mean to change into rabbit fuck mode. By rubbing in between the vagina and clitoris up and down (rubbing against the urethra), you can give your partner cystitis, and it does not feel good.

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These things are not just about pace, but about knowing whether or not you are cognizant of each other’s verbal and non-verbal cues. Telling your needs and responding to your partner’s needs is the key to amazing sex.

They don’t make sure their partners had an orgasm

Just because you were satisfied, you cannot assume she was too. Unless you made an effort to make it pleasurable enough for her, it may not have happened. Some women need extra help from you to reach the big-O. 

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What is it like to have a threesome?

Well, before having a threesome, you need to make sure the bed is big enough for all of you to sleep in together afterward.

Okay, having a threesome now is not the best idea given the pandemic, but the idea of more people in the bedroom stays the most popular sexual bucket list activities. 

Our advice is to have a threesome in healthier times, but if you don’t want to put your whole life on wait, just do that with someone you trust. Okay, now back to the most popular fantasy. And no, a threesome isn’t a male fantasy that pop culture tries to portray. There are many reasons why women would want a threesome. So, no matter if you are a girl or a boy, you should be encouraged to explore it if it turns you on. 

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Is it okay that I want a threesome with my partner?

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Whether you are in a committed relationship and you want to invite someone else in your bed, or you look to join a couple as their unicorn, or you just want to try something new amongst friends, a threesome is easier to have than you would think.

Yes, there should be planning involved, and the most important thing is that everyone is on board with the rules.

What actually happens during the threesome? 

You don’t have to be nervous – it’s still sex, and you know that you enjoy having sex. But, you will probably start with some booze, so everyone can relax a bit. During the foreplay, of course, there will be a lot of kissing and going down on each other. You can go down on someone, while you ride the face of the other person. And then, you can try every sex position that you want. 

It is your choice whether you will get fucked by both of them or you will just fuck them. But, you should be open to new things. You would never know whether you like your butthole to be touched unless you try! 

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What if the threesome doesn’t go the way you’d imagined?

Well, at least you tried, and don’t forget that everything gets better with practice. Wink, wink. It can be overwhelming and not as cohesive as you expect. But it can also be fun and balanced, and even a lot more fun than you thought it would be. If this is a fantasy of yours, we encourage you to try it!  

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Things to know before trying threesome

  • Everyone is stressed about whether it will be okay. But the more relaxed you are, the better the sex will be. 
  • Be open to try new things. So, any hot ideas you have been too shy to try before, throw them in now! You are doing something outside your comfort zone, so lean out.
  • If you are a couple, don’t make your unicorn your therapist.
  • Have extra condoms, even if it is one guy and two women. 
  • Music will help to set the mood.
  • Do not spend time spiraling in advance over what goes where and who is doing what.

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