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Should you stay in a marriage for the kids?

Is it right to stay in a marriage for the children’s sake even though your spouse and you cannot seem to get along and argue a lot?

The decision to end a marriage, especially when kids are involved, is the most difficult choice a person could face. Divorce is ugly.

It adds stress to your lives, friends, families, and children. And unfortunately, divorce brings the worst in people. Anger and hurt feelings take priority over doing what is best for the children. 

When you’re angry, you may think that divorce is better for your kids. But, think about your kids’ emotional pain of being unable to decide with which of their parents they want to spend their birthdays or holidays. We know that you now look at your children and worry about them. The last thing you want is your children to go through some difficult situations provoked by your situations. 

Do everything you can to save your marriage

We always think it’s best for married couples to do everything they can to work on their problems. Obviously, provided that you aren’t abused or cheated on. In those scenarios, the best you can do is to end the things as soon as possible. 

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In other cases, challenge yourselves to repair your marriage before choosing a divorce. Giving up is the easiest thing you can do. But you need to fight for your marriage and family. Go to counseling, talk with your loved ones, and work at it. 

It’s always better when the parents are working towards the long-term happiness and health of the family and marriage. You owe your kids to put as much effort as possible into trying your marriage to work. No parent should divorce without putting their kids’ needs for a complete family before their need for a divorce. 

When staying together is no longer an option…

We aren’t trying to say that staying married at any cost is better for the kids than divorcing. If you don’t love each other anymore, or you’re unhappy together for whatever reason and decide to stay together for the kids, you’re doing more harm to them than good. 

If you stay together, you’ll engage in unhealthy relationship habits, and the behaviors you show in your home will set the stage for how your kids would behave when they’re adults. And if you stay together, you’re increasing the likelihood that your children will repeat the same patterns they’ve seen growing up.  An unhealthy marriage will produce kids who will have unhealthy relationships when they grow up. 

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Your children learn from you what it means to be in a marriage, how to be a partner, and how to deal with a conflict in a marriage.  And even if you think that your kids don’t know what’s happening between you two just because you don’t fight in front of them – believe us, they know. 

What to do if you do decide to get a divorce

When a couple decides to get divorced, they need to handle their divorce collaboratively and maturely. Only by doing that, they are giving the chance to their children to be fine in the end. 

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How each of you behaves during and after the divorce determines whether your children will be okay. You need to remain civil, avoid blaming and bad-mouthing each other. You need to work together and create united parenting strategies. Your children need your consistent time, reassurance, and attention, so they can grow up happy and healthy. 

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Make me warm in this cold weather

Yes, we already have cold weather, but you and your partner can make each other warm with our date ideas.

Yes, we already have cold weather, but you and your partner can make each other warm with our date ideas.

This time of the year can be extra sexy, cuddling up by your fireplace, with the entire magical atmosphere.

Turn on the romance in your relationship and get the magic out of this season. Use cold weather as an excuse to have sexy, romantic dates that will light the sparkle in your relationship. Being stuck inside in this cold weather doesn’t need to be boring! You and your partner can find ways to make your time delightful while the weather outside is frightful.

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To us, romance is about comfort, fun, and silliness. So, when cold weather rolls around, we want to warm up with some winter romance. Use our ideas to warm each other up!

Bake cookies together

What a better way to spend some quality time together? You can be silly and make a whole mess in the kitchen while preparing the cookies, and then have fun cleaning it up. Cozy up by your fireplace, take your freshly baked cookies and make tea with rum, too. The tea will add to the warmth! 

Make fondue

This is the best food for the cold weather! Fondue takes delicious forms – chocolate or cheese, making it a tasty date. Heat some cheese or chocolate in your house and start dipping away!

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Sing karaoke

Belting out “I Will Always Love You” in public may not be for you, but you can have your karaoke when no one can hear you! Well, except for your neighbors! This is about being silly together, so it’s a key for a lighthearted date. When you look foolish with someone else, the embarrassing act will turn into a bonding one. Sing your hearts out to your favorite songs. So, you will make some fun memories together! 

How to prepare a romantic dinner at home

Watch all your favorite movies

Since you love to stay in bed during the cold weather, use it as an opportunity to watch all your favorite movies. You can take turns and watch each other’s picks. Stock up on the cookies, get your blankets out, and make your partner watch your favorite movies, no matter how cheesy they are. 

Make cocktails

Find some recipes online and put all those bottles at your home to good use to make some festive cocktails together! Bourbon-spiked hot chocolate? Yes, please! Sparkling apple cider sangria? Even better. Enjoy!

How to celebrate your anniversary at home?

Host a beer tasting

Pick up different beers and host a tasting for two! You can try champagne-style beers, chocolate stouts, sour beers, or some types you have never tried before. And we all know that we have more fun in bed after a few glasses of alcohol!  

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A spa day at home

Draw up a bubble bath with bath salts and essential oils. Put on some relaxing music, light candles, and enjoy spending time together, not caring for the rest of the world. And some wine would be a great idea! There is some magic in spending time naked with your partner! 

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Have breakfast in bed

 Your dates don’t have to happen at night! If you wake up to cold weather, cook some breakfast together, and go back to bed to eat! Talk, cuddle, and have some morning sex. You know that there isn’t a better start to the day than sex!

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Signs that you shouldn’t start a relationship

To protect yourself and not get hurt, it would be smart to pay attention to some signs before you start a serious relationship.

In some situations, it is more than obvious that the person you are seeing will be the perfect partner for a serious relationship, but sometimes their behavior can make you doubt it.

Below you can see the warning signs that you should not start a relationship with the person you like at the moment. 

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They constantly cancel plans

How many times have you prepared to go out with this person, and they canceled on you at the last minute? It can happen to all of us to cancel a plan because something unexpected has come up. But if this happens too often, then this person does not value your time or you at all. Therefore, do not waste your time with them.

They hide you from everyone

It is normal at the beginning not to tell everyone that you have someone new in your life. We all have been there – we are not sure if we will continue to see that person, so we keep things to ourselves. However, if you see each other for a long time and this person is still hiding from your friends, something is wrong.

Do they avoid going to a restaurant or any public place and always suggest going to their place or yours? Do they always find an excuse not to meet even their best friends? If yes, ask yourself why.

They still complain about their ex

Maybe they are just whiny, or they might have unresolved issues with their former partner. You do not have to listen to them. Trust us – that never ends well. Your dates shouldn’t feel like counseling sessions. You do not have to keep all your romantic plans aside because you have to console them. 

They are NEVER available

This is one of the signs you should never ignore. You do not want to be with a person who never replies to your messages, doesn’t take your calls, and NEVER calls back. How do you expect them to be there for you when they don’t even take your calls? 

They do not want you to be friends on social networks

Social networks are an important part of our lives today, so if the person you like uses them but does not want to be online friends, they are hiding something.

Calling you only at night (or when drunk)

If this person likes you, they will not think of you only at night or when they are bored. If you have noticed that they call you and send you messages only in the evening or after drinking alcohol, it is not worth spending your time with them.

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They change their attitude all the time 

One day they treat you like you are the most important person in the world for them, but the next they forget that you exist. Did you go out with this person and have a wonderful time, but the next day they did not write you one message? Well, this person is not interested in you, and you shouldn’t hope that they will change.

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They tell you that they are not ready for a relationship

But that is confusing, right? They don’t want you to be in a relationship, but they still flirt with you and call you? Although it is difficult to accept this, they are probably just using you. If you want something serious, but they always have an excuse why not to start a relationship, it is time to find someone else.

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Should you break up with your partner?

Are you struggling with messy, confusing feels about your relationship? Well, you clicked on this article, so it seems that you are here because you aren’t sure whether or not to break up with your partner. For whatever reason you are feeling this way, don’t worry – we are here to help.

We offer you some advice on when it is time to break up and move on. Just be mindful that you know your relationship the best.

We just want you to help to make the best decision for your relationship. You should know that if you do decide to break up, it will not be the end of your life. We promise you. 

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Break up if you cannot imagine the future with your partner 

Does thinking about the future freaks you out? Well, you should break up if you cannot see your partner in the future. Don’t get us wrong – we are all about staying in the moment instead of looking ahead into the future. However, if you cannot picture your partner beside you on your best adventures, well, that is a bad sign. 

If you hold your current partner without intent for plans, you are limiting both of you from finding true happiness. Just ask, “Where do I see myself in 1 year?” Now, did you see this person with you?

You feel bored or stuck 

Sorry, but you probably need to break up if you are not satisfied regardless of what you do together. If you have tried everything together from rock climbing to trips, but you still disengage from your partner when you are together, it may be a sign to move on. You should break up particularly if you constantly imagine how your life would be different without him/her and the vision is tempting.

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Break up if you do not feel like a priority

Do you continuously feel insignificant, neglected, or not cared for in the relationship? There is a major difference between a person who is busy with commitments and a person who simply does not make time for you. If your partner is neglectful and inattentive of your needs, despite your efforts in communicating your needs to him/her, well your partner is not valuing the relationship and you. Your partner will never be capable of meeting your emotional needs if they lack adequate relationship skills.

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You are on different pages

If you feel all the time that one of you is more “in it” than the other, then maybe it is time to end things. Okay, it is normal for feelings to seesaw a little bit. However, if you feel like your partner is so into you and you are only meh about them or vice versa, then your relationship may have been doomed from the very beginning. You cannot force someone who does not want to be in a serious relationship to want one all of a sudden. You have to accept that is not the one if the timing is off. We know that and this is one of the hardest lessons anyone has to learn.

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