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Signs that you are in a loveless marriage

Here are some possible signs that you are in a loveless marriage. It is important to be honest with yourself and do an inventory of your emotions.

Divorce is hard, but so is being in a loveless marriage. Don’t stay in a relationship where you get nothing out of it. 

If you identify with some (of all) these signs, talk with your spouse partner, and look for a couple’s counselor. We know that every marriage can go through rough patches. But sometimes, a rough patch can stretch into rough months or even years. So, if you feel you are experiencing a lengthy rough patch, it is time to stop and see what you want from your marriage. 

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However, determining the difference between a “rough patch” and a persisting problem is not so simple. To help you, here are the signs that you might be in a loveless marriage. Start noticing the red flags.

Your partner constantly criticize you – or vice versa

Yes, we all get cranky. It is okay to be annoyed if your partner never picks a restaurant. However, it’s crucial to understand whether your frustration comes from a lack of respect for your spouse, or if you are having a bad day. If you use terms like ‘always’ and ‘never,’ you are not just criticizing them – you are assassinating their character. So, look out for the way you criticize your partner. 

But there are ways of criticizing that are not personal attacks. Instead of saying “you are a bad listener, say “I feel bad when you care more about Facebook than what I have to tell you.” 

Couples avoid each other in a loveless marriage 

Do you find yourself spending more time roaming through the store or staying longer at work so you don’t have to go home to your partner? Do you both spend time on your phones when you are supposed to watch a movie? Do you go to bed at different times? These could be signs that you are unsatisfied and in a loveless marriage.

As you grow more distant with your partner, there might be discomfort or even a sense of repulsion when you are spending time together. If you feel like “yourself” when you are alone, with friends, or even at work, you may consider ending the marriage. If you feel uncomfortable when you think about your spouse coming back into the picture, you have a real problem. 

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The connection stops in a loveless marriage 

Do you feel numb? In a loveless marriage, hostility and conflict are replaced by a cold calm. Couples say ‘thank you’ and ‘please’, they work as a team to parent and maintain a home, but they are no longer part of a team in an emotional sense. If you don’t put in the effort to give compassion, show vulnerability, be friends, you are no longer partners. Your spouse has become the equivalent of a roommate that you want to avoid. 

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You don’t have date nights anymore

A dry spell can last a month or so for different reasons, like tight budget, lack of babysitter, packed social calendar, or exhaustion – you do not get dressed up, make a reservation to a nice restaurant, and enjoy a relaxing date night. But, if you cannot remember when was the last time you two went out alone, it has gone beyond what is an acceptable dry spell, and you both can no longer look the other way.

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How to celebrate important dates in a long-distance relationship

Navigating a long-distance relationship is no easy at all, especially when the calendar lands on important dates of yours.

But just because you aren’t physically together, it doesn’t mean the important dates have to be any less romantic.

We know, it is not the same as being in real life with your boo. Be the global pandemic or other circumstance, many people are separated right now. But because of that, there are many virtual date options for you and your partner, so you can easily celebrate your important dates. 

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The important dates deserve to be celebrated, so we offer you some lavish options.

Listen to porn together

What’s a better way to celebrate some of your important dates by listening to audio porn? If you both prefer the sound to the visual of porn, this type of porn may be your new favorite thing. Many apps nowadays apps feature short-form stories that will spark your imagination and get you in the mood, no matter how far apart you are. Audio porn can be a sure-fire way to spice up your important dates.

Stream a show or movie simultaneously

Okay, we know the feeling – you are dying to watch the new season of your favorite series on Netflix, but you want to do that with your partner. Maybe this isn’t the most romantic thing to do on important dates, but, you shouldn’t feel pressure to do something that you don’t want just because it is your anniversary or Valentine’s Day. Enjoy every minute with your partner. Eat the same snacks and maintain communication through FaceTime so you can get all their reactions. This will make you feel like you are really together. Better yet, try Netflix or HBO’ Party feature, which lets you watch simultaneously without having to sync up manually.

Enjoy a sunset or sunrise together

Whether it is from your window, on a rooftop, or at the beach, coordinate a time to FaceTime that coincides with the sun rising or setting. We know that sometimes time zones can be a problem, so you can share your sunrise or sunset with your partner through video and vice versa.

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Arrange a dinner date

If you always celebrate your important dates by going on a dinner date, well, distance shouldn’t stop you now. You can both cook your favorite meal and set them up in front of your camera. You will get an amazing virtual dinner date. Do you want to make it even more exciting? Well, then you should try a virtual cooking class together. And don’t forget the dessert! The literal dessert and the one that will give you a good orgasm before going to sleep. 

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Visit them…as a surprise 

Nothing can beat if you show up at their current home when they are not expecting to see you. If you can get some time off from work, the best gift you can give them is time spent together on some important date for you two. Or even better, you can plan a trip to meet somewhere else. You can meet halfway and split the expenses. Even if you spend a couple of days somewhere local, we all know that a change of scenery will make it a special occasion.

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Fun topics for conversation with your significant other

Once the get-to-know phase of your relationship is long over, and you have already covered the basics, you will need some fun topics to talk about.

Yes, communication should never die in a healthy and happy relationship, but sometimes we all need some fun topics to talk about. 

If you have touched on all surface-level conversations with your significant other, like what you do for a living, where you spent your childhood, and what you do for fun, it doesn’t mean you know everything about them! We know that passion naturally wanes as the relationship becomes less new. And yes, it is okay to sometimes sit in silence, but if you want to have a good time, maybe you should try our fun topics. 

It is up to you to refuel the excitement and get creative with some thought-provoking and fun topics. In this way, you will get to know each other on a more intimate and deeper level. 

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Here are some fun topics to bring up with your partner. But, be prepared to express your opinions as well. 

Fun topics: What your dream vacation houses look like

When you achieve your dreams and earn a good amount of money, it will be helpful to know where your partner envisions your vacation home. Don’t forget to be honest – you shouldn’t say that you love the mountains just because your partner prefers skiing. You will make a compromise, don’t worry! Okay, yes, you can log onto Zillow to get some inspiration! 

Talk about your passions 

If you are in a long relationship, there will be a time when you will feel that your conversations have grown stale. In that case, talking about passions will spark the passion! Talking sincerely about your passions will get the most interesting conversations. You would be surprised to know how many people do not know the passions of their partners. Don’t let the same thing happen to you! 

Fun topics: Embarrassing stories

Believe us – your partner would want to know those interesting stories! And you, too! Embarrassing stories do bring us together since we get great laughs together and some inside jokes for the future! Yes, we are talking about the first kiss stories that involve braces and bloody lips. You both should dish out the most cringe-worthy stories! 

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Talk about your families

Talking about the closest ones – the ones who you grew up with and raised you – is the deepest and most relatable topic. And there is always something new and fun that you can share from your childhood! It would be fun, but also a learning opportunity for both of you on how your upbringing can impact the kind of family you want or not want in the future. 

We all have good and bad family memories. This topic will allow you both to speak openly, and you will learn a lot about each other. 

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And about your bucket lists

Okay, this is probably one of the interesting topics! Whether you are dying to take a dance class, or go skydiving, this is a good opportunity to learn new things about your partner. Don’t forget to talk about your favorite destinations, and then solidify plans to check life goals off your lists together.

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The most common mistakes couples make in a relationship

It is not easy to break up with the partner you love and with whom you have spent a lot of time together, but did you know that most serious relationships end because of insignificant mistakes?

The good news is that you can handle and even avoid these mistakes with very little effort. Stop taking your partner for granted!

Mistakes couples do: They get lost in the relationship

At the beginning of the relationship, it is nice when you dedicate all your time to each other, and even neglect some individual hobbies, friendships, or routines. But it is wrong to be preoccupied with the relationship in the long run and lose interest in your friends, things you have done before, and personal interests. That will soon lead to boredom in the relationship. It is okay to have your needs, desires, and interests.

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They ignore each other

Just because you live with your partner does not mean that you should not spend part of the day doing something just the two of you. You may spend the whole day in the same room, but if you do not talk and ignore each other, you do not benefit from this “hanging out”. So, make sure to pay attention to your partner, and spend quality time together.

Mistakes couples do: They avoid sensitive topics

Some topics seem to intimidate couples, they do not have enough confidence to say what they feel since they fear they will end up rejected or embarrassed. Moving in together, having children, living together are delicate topics for discussion. But, you still need to talk about these topics eventually, so neither of you ends up frustrated.

Do not suppress problems and tell your partner when you do not like something in the relationship. It is not a good idea to always avoid conflicts. If your partner does something wrong, without being aware of it, and you do not tell him, he/she will continue, and your anger will grow. Eventually, you will “explode” and have a much bigger, unnecessary argument.

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Mistakes couples do: They stop being appreciative 

Sometimes people get used to their partner, so they stop appreciating all the effort they put into the relationship. For example, if your partner is constantly doing all household chores, do not act as it is not a big deal. Instead, show your gratitude, offer help, and tell your partner that you appreciate what he or she does for you. The same goes for many other things in a relationship – just because you have been together for a long time, does not mean that you should stop paying compliments to your partner or do some romantic gestures.

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They have low self-esteem

Low self-esteem can cause a lot of problems in a relationship. First of all, people with low self-esteem often think that they are not good enough for their partner, so they constantly expect to be left behind. With this way of thinking, you will certainly not enjoy the moments with your partner. Also, jealousy often happens when people have low self-esteem, even when there is no reason for it. And we all know that jealousy is often the cause of relationship problems.

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