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Stop celebrating Valentine’s Day

Many people started thinking about Valentine’s Day about all the obligations they have to their partner. If you are like us and believe that Valentine’s Day is overrated, well, this article is for you!

Is it time we stopped celebrating Valentine’s Day? Um, yes it is. Valentine’s Day is awfully overrated. Valentine’s Day has become a marketing triumph.

We see Valentine’s as spending too much money on materialistic things as a way of showing our love to our partner. With Valentine’s Day coming, we are reminded it is time to focus on our special someone. For just one day it’s all about showing our love for our partner. Chocolates, flowers, soppy cards, or expensive gifts are all great, of course. However, the fact we need an occasion to show our love is a sad reflection on our efforts for the other days of the year.

And before continuing with reading, don’t think that we hate Valentine’s Day because we are alone or single. We have valid reasons why we think we should stop celebrating Valentine’s Day.

Valentine’s Day implies that your happiness is dependent on having someone

It is not just that Valentine’s Day is now synonymous with marketing tricks. It is also that it feels like an oppressive reinforcement of the idea that your happiness is dependent on having a partner to complete you.

Having a date on Valentine’s Day is a status symbol more than anything else. It implies that you are somehow more successful and better than your single friends, and that is obviously outrageous. You need to understand that single people can be just as happy as couples, and they should not be boxed out of this holiday because they are without a partner. 

We don’t say that romantic relationships aren’t joyful, dizzying, and brilliant things that have the power to make you feel like you are constantly walking on clouds. However, if you buy into the idea of love sold by card manufacturers, those relationships can also be cumbersome, bleak, infuriating. 

Valentine’s Day is forced

There is nothing less romantic than a forced gesture performed out of desperation because you have been bombarded by marketing emails from companies that tell you to spend loads of money to prove you love someone. 

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Valentine’s Day is a holiday in which couples are forced to evaluate their relationship status and profess their eternal love for each other. 

However, if you are a strong couple, you will do these things at their own pace. Strong couples don’t need a day in which to do these things. They also know it is much more romantic to surprise their loved ones with love notes and meaningful gifts every day. Those ‘unimportant’ days are the moments that you will remember and cherish ultimately. 

And we’d rather be surprised with a pizza on Monday night at home than with an expensive gift on Valentine’s Day. That is much more thoughtful, romantic, and from the heart, if you ask us.

Crowds are not romantic on this day

There is nothing romantic about being surrounded by other couples who are under the same awkward pressure to define their relationship with gifts wrapped in shiny pink and red paper. To be out that night is the least romantic setting ever! 

Celebrate your special days instead of this forced day

The first time you said “I love you” to each other, or had sex, or kissed. Mark those days on the calendar and celebrate them between the two of you. 

Strong couples do this, and Valentine’s Day is the least important day on their love calendar.

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How to get over your partner without having negative thoughts?

We just can’t stop thinking about some life situations. In that inner battle of negative thoughts that are constantly revolving around, shifting the focus to something else seems impossible.

But we always have a reason for these negative thoughts, and when the reason is a breakup, we always spend so much time wondering what our ex-partners are doing, thinking, and feeling, and why such an outcome has occurred. 

It is a state of constant uncertainty that is difficult to deal with. It is difficult and painful, but it is a condition that is completely normal after a breakup and it does not last forever. We offer you some helpful tips on how to reduce the duration of this dreadful period and stop being preoccupied with negative thoughts.

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How to stop unhealthy, obsessive, and negative thoughts after a breakup?

The brain needs to repeat certain scenarios and thoughts that hurt you to prepare you for possible similar events in the future. A certain amount of such thoughts is perfectly normal after a breakup, but sometimes there are too many negative thoughts, so you should learn how to stop them. 

Do not run away from your experience, but normalize it

Sometimes we do not have the answers to the questions that bother us and it is a completely normal state of mind to return to the same or similar topics to come up with answers. If you want to return to a “normal” state and if you want to move away from negative thoughts, you must first accept them and understand your process as completely normal. There is nothing shameful about getting over your partner. 

Change your thoughts 

No one can change their focus or thoughts into something positive in a week. But everyone can go on with their lives. Do not just think about what happened and do not be afraid of the life that follows. Be active, find new hobbies, go back to your old activities, socialize, and gradually change the way you think and feel. 

Decide to change and be specific

Although negative thoughts are normal, you should not allow yourself to get lost in their whirlpool. Breaking up is a huge life change and you are the person who has to decide exactly how that breakup will change you. From a breakup, like any other life change, you can draw a lot of positive things. Therefore, instead of self-pity, choose to learn lessons from that breakup, to find out what was toxic in the relationship. You need to understand what you do not want to see and experience in the next relationship.

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Replace “why” with “how” and “what”

When we experience certain losses and tragedies, we often wonder why that happened to us, why it happened at all, and why someone decided to do it. It is good to ask yourself questions after a breakup, but the emphasis should not be on “why” but on “how” and “what”. For example, instead of asking, “Why did this happen?” ask yourself, “How did this happen?” or “What can be concluded from everything that happened?” Questions with “why” can make you feel stuck. 

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Schedule negative thoughts

Since you will not be able to get rid of negative thoughts in the short term, you should at least schedule them. Schedule a period of the day when you will think about everything that has happened and answer some of the questions that bother you about the breakup. Set aside between 15 and 30 minutes a day for this, and once you have done so, return to other activities.

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Signs that you are in a rebound relationship

Okay, let’s get some things straight from the beginning. Being a rebound sucks and we know it!

But the worst thing is that you cannot fault the person that is using you to rebound. It is very likely they are not even doing it consciously. 

Being rebound to someone is maybe just poor timing and the fact that they are vulnerable and you are available. Just to be clear – we don’t mean that if you are with someone who just had a bad breakup that your relationship must be doomed. However, here are some warning signs that indicate that you could be a rebound. 

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You found out their last relationship was pretty serious

Yep, this is a warning sign that you may be a rebound. Did your current partner date someone for a short time and things just fizzled out? Well, that kind of relationship is not so damaging that someone would have needed a rebound. But did they date for six years? Were they high school sweetheart’s maybe? Did their friends think they were getting married for sure? Well, that’s bad and you know it! 

Your partner needs a date to a major event coming up 

Well, in this case, you are more of an arm candy; we cannot even call you a rebound. This is the most common case when their ex-partner is going to the same birthday/benefit/party. After a breakup, people need to show that they have moved on to their exes. Everyone wants to win that department after a bad breakup. If this describes your situation perfectly for you, just make sure you can leave the place on your own, so you can whenever you want. This is a guaranteed shit show.

Things are moving way too fast 

Yes, it is a bad thing if your partner is feeling too comfortable with you from the very beginning. Does it feel as if she/he never left the old relationship? These people act as if they are in the same relationship just with a different person. If they are trying to act like things are serious less than two months in and constantly doing some “serious” stuff and expecting you to do the same, it might be because they are having a hard time relearning boundaries.

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Their expectations seemed forced 

It is as if they cannot let go of how things used to be. They get upset if you do not want to go to the theatre or expect them to come to your place instead of theirs. Maybe they think you don’t call enough (or too much). They are always annoyed about things that they don’t even need to be annoyed about. They could mean that they basically want you to replace their old partner. Until they come to terms with the fact that their old relationship is over, things will not change.

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They are always in a relationship 

That is not a bad thing essentially, but it does not mean that they are committed either. Some people just need to be constantly with someone, meaning they almost instinctively grab the first person after a bad breakup. If you can see a pattern, it is unlikely you are breaking the mold.

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How to celebrate important dates in a long-distance relationship

Navigating a long-distance relationship is no easy at all, especially when the calendar lands on important dates of yours.

But just because you aren’t physically together, it doesn’t mean the important dates have to be any less romantic.

We know, it is not the same as being in real life with your boo. Be the global pandemic or other circumstance, many people are separated right now. But because of that, there are many virtual date options for you and your partner, so you can easily celebrate your important dates. 

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The important dates deserve to be celebrated, so we offer you some lavish options.

Listen to porn together

What’s a better way to celebrate some of your important dates by listening to audio porn? If you both prefer the sound to the visual of porn, this type of porn may be your new favorite thing. Many apps nowadays apps feature short-form stories that will spark your imagination and get you in the mood, no matter how far apart you are. Audio porn can be a sure-fire way to spice up your important dates.

Stream a show or movie simultaneously

Okay, we know the feeling – you are dying to watch the new season of your favorite series on Netflix, but you want to do that with your partner. Maybe this isn’t the most romantic thing to do on important dates, but, you shouldn’t feel pressure to do something that you don’t want just because it is your anniversary or Valentine’s Day. Enjoy every minute with your partner. Eat the same snacks and maintain communication through FaceTime so you can get all their reactions. This will make you feel like you are really together. Better yet, try Netflix or HBO’ Party feature, which lets you watch simultaneously without having to sync up manually.

Enjoy a sunset or sunrise together

Whether it is from your window, on a rooftop, or at the beach, coordinate a time to FaceTime that coincides with the sun rising or setting. We know that sometimes time zones can be a problem, so you can share your sunrise or sunset with your partner through video and vice versa.

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Arrange a dinner date

If you always celebrate your important dates by going on a dinner date, well, distance shouldn’t stop you now. You can both cook your favorite meal and set them up in front of your camera. You will get an amazing virtual dinner date. Do you want to make it even more exciting? Well, then you should try a virtual cooking class together. And don’t forget the dessert! The literal dessert and the one that will give you a good orgasm before going to sleep. 

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Visit them…as a surprise 

Nothing can beat if you show up at their current home when they are not expecting to see you. If you can get some time off from work, the best gift you can give them is time spent together on some important date for you two. Or even better, you can plan a trip to meet somewhere else. You can meet halfway and split the expenses. Even if you spend a couple of days somewhere local, we all know that a change of scenery will make it a special occasion.

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