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Stop celebrating Valentine’s Day

Many people started thinking about Valentine’s Day about all the obligations they have to their partner. If you are like us and believe that Valentine’s Day is overrated, well, this article is for you!

Is it time we stopped celebrating Valentine’s Day? Um, yes it is. Valentine’s Day is awfully overrated. Valentine’s Day has become a marketing triumph.

We see Valentine’s as spending too much money on materialistic things as a way of showing our love to our partner. With Valentine’s Day coming, we are reminded it is time to focus on our special someone. For just one day it’s all about showing our love for our partner. Chocolates, flowers, soppy cards, or expensive gifts are all great, of course. However, the fact we need an occasion to show our love is a sad reflection on our efforts for the other days of the year.

And before continuing with reading, don’t think that we hate Valentine’s Day because we are alone or single. We have valid reasons why we think we should stop celebrating Valentine’s Day.

Valentine’s Day implies that your happiness is dependent on having someone

It is not just that Valentine’s Day is now synonymous with marketing tricks. It is also that it feels like an oppressive reinforcement of the idea that your happiness is dependent on having a partner to complete you.

Having a date on Valentine’s Day is a status symbol more than anything else. It implies that you are somehow more successful and better than your single friends, and that is obviously outrageous. You need to understand that single people can be just as happy as couples, and they should not be boxed out of this holiday because they are without a partner. 

We don’t say that romantic relationships aren’t joyful, dizzying, and brilliant things that have the power to make you feel like you are constantly walking on clouds. However, if you buy into the idea of love sold by card manufacturers, those relationships can also be cumbersome, bleak, infuriating. 

Valentine’s Day is forced

There is nothing less romantic than a forced gesture performed out of desperation because you have been bombarded by marketing emails from companies that tell you to spend loads of money to prove you love someone. 

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Valentine’s Day is a holiday in which couples are forced to evaluate their relationship status and profess their eternal love for each other. 

However, if you are a strong couple, you will do these things at their own pace. Strong couples don’t need a day in which to do these things. They also know it is much more romantic to surprise their loved ones with love notes and meaningful gifts every day. Those ‘unimportant’ days are the moments that you will remember and cherish ultimately. 

And we’d rather be surprised with a pizza on Monday night at home than with an expensive gift on Valentine’s Day. That is much more thoughtful, romantic, and from the heart, if you ask us.

Crowds are not romantic on this day

There is nothing romantic about being surrounded by other couples who are under the same awkward pressure to define their relationship with gifts wrapped in shiny pink and red paper. To be out that night is the least romantic setting ever! 

Celebrate your special days instead of this forced day

The first time you said “I love you” to each other, or had sex, or kissed. Mark those days on the calendar and celebrate them between the two of you. 

Strong couples do this, and Valentine’s Day is the least important day on their love calendar.

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Signs that you are in a loveless marriage

Here are some possible signs that you are in a loveless marriage. It is important to be honest with yourself and do an inventory of your emotions.

Divorce is hard, but so is being in a loveless marriage. Don’t stay in a relationship where you get nothing out of it. 

If you identify with some (of all) these signs, talk with your spouse partner, and look for a couple’s counselor. We know that every marriage can go through rough patches. But sometimes, a rough patch can stretch into rough months or even years. So, if you feel you are experiencing a lengthy rough patch, it is time to stop and see what you want from your marriage. 

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However, determining the difference between a “rough patch” and a persisting problem is not so simple. To help you, here are the signs that you might be in a loveless marriage. Start noticing the red flags.

Your partner constantly criticize you – or vice versa

Yes, we all get cranky. It is okay to be annoyed if your partner never picks a restaurant. However, it’s crucial to understand whether your frustration comes from a lack of respect for your spouse, or if you are having a bad day. If you use terms like ‘always’ and ‘never,’ you are not just criticizing them – you are assassinating their character. So, look out for the way you criticize your partner. 

But there are ways of criticizing that are not personal attacks. Instead of saying “you are a bad listener, say “I feel bad when you care more about Facebook than what I have to tell you.” 

Couples avoid each other in a loveless marriage 

Do you find yourself spending more time roaming through the store or staying longer at work so you don’t have to go home to your partner? Do you both spend time on your phones when you are supposed to watch a movie? Do you go to bed at different times? These could be signs that you are unsatisfied and in a loveless marriage.

As you grow more distant with your partner, there might be discomfort or even a sense of repulsion when you are spending time together. If you feel like “yourself” when you are alone, with friends, or even at work, you may consider ending the marriage. If you feel uncomfortable when you think about your spouse coming back into the picture, you have a real problem. 

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The connection stops in a loveless marriage 

Do you feel numb? In a loveless marriage, hostility and conflict are replaced by a cold calm. Couples say ‘thank you’ and ‘please’, they work as a team to parent and maintain a home, but they are no longer part of a team in an emotional sense. If you don’t put in the effort to give compassion, show vulnerability, be friends, you are no longer partners. Your spouse has become the equivalent of a roommate that you want to avoid. 

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You don’t have date nights anymore

A dry spell can last a month or so for different reasons, like tight budget, lack of babysitter, packed social calendar, or exhaustion – you do not get dressed up, make a reservation to a nice restaurant, and enjoy a relaxing date night. But, if you cannot remember when was the last time you two went out alone, it has gone beyond what is an acceptable dry spell, and you both can no longer look the other way.

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Make me warm in this cold weather

Yes, we already have cold weather, but you and your partner can make each other warm with our date ideas.

Yes, we already have cold weather, but you and your partner can make each other warm with our date ideas.

This time of the year can be extra sexy, cuddling up by your fireplace, with the entire magical atmosphere.

Turn on the romance in your relationship and get the magic out of this season. Use cold weather as an excuse to have sexy, romantic dates that will light the sparkle in your relationship. Being stuck inside in this cold weather doesn’t need to be boring! You and your partner can find ways to make your time delightful while the weather outside is frightful.

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To us, romance is about comfort, fun, and silliness. So, when cold weather rolls around, we want to warm up with some winter romance. Use our ideas to warm each other up!

Bake cookies together

What a better way to spend some quality time together? You can be silly and make a whole mess in the kitchen while preparing the cookies, and then have fun cleaning it up. Cozy up by your fireplace, take your freshly baked cookies and make tea with rum, too. The tea will add to the warmth! 

Make fondue

This is the best food for the cold weather! Fondue takes delicious forms – chocolate or cheese, making it a tasty date. Heat some cheese or chocolate in your house and start dipping away!

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Sing karaoke

Belting out “I Will Always Love You” in public may not be for you, but you can have your karaoke when no one can hear you! Well, except for your neighbors! This is about being silly together, so it’s a key for a lighthearted date. When you look foolish with someone else, the embarrassing act will turn into a bonding one. Sing your hearts out to your favorite songs. So, you will make some fun memories together! 

How to prepare a romantic dinner at home

Watch all your favorite movies

Since you love to stay in bed during the cold weather, use it as an opportunity to watch all your favorite movies. You can take turns and watch each other’s picks. Stock up on the cookies, get your blankets out, and make your partner watch your favorite movies, no matter how cheesy they are. 

Make cocktails

Find some recipes online and put all those bottles at your home to good use to make some festive cocktails together! Bourbon-spiked hot chocolate? Yes, please! Sparkling apple cider sangria? Even better. Enjoy!

How to celebrate your anniversary at home?

Host a beer tasting

Pick up different beers and host a tasting for two! You can try champagne-style beers, chocolate stouts, sour beers, or some types you have never tried before. And we all know that we have more fun in bed after a few glasses of alcohol!  

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A spa day at home

Draw up a bubble bath with bath salts and essential oils. Put on some relaxing music, light candles, and enjoy spending time together, not caring for the rest of the world. And some wine would be a great idea! There is some magic in spending time naked with your partner! 

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Have breakfast in bed

 Your dates don’t have to happen at night! If you wake up to cold weather, cook some breakfast together, and go back to bed to eat! Talk, cuddle, and have some morning sex. You know that there isn’t a better start to the day than sex!

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Signs that you shouldn’t start a relationship

To protect yourself and not get hurt, it would be smart to pay attention to some signs before you start a serious relationship.

In some situations, it is more than obvious that the person you are seeing will be the perfect partner for a serious relationship, but sometimes their behavior can make you doubt it.

Below you can see the warning signs that you should not start a relationship with the person you like at the moment. 

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They constantly cancel plans

How many times have you prepared to go out with this person, and they canceled on you at the last minute? It can happen to all of us to cancel a plan because something unexpected has come up. But if this happens too often, then this person does not value your time or you at all. Therefore, do not waste your time with them.

They hide you from everyone

It is normal at the beginning not to tell everyone that you have someone new in your life. We all have been there – we are not sure if we will continue to see that person, so we keep things to ourselves. However, if you see each other for a long time and this person is still hiding from your friends, something is wrong.

Do they avoid going to a restaurant or any public place and always suggest going to their place or yours? Do they always find an excuse not to meet even their best friends? If yes, ask yourself why.

They still complain about their ex

Maybe they are just whiny, or they might have unresolved issues with their former partner. You do not have to listen to them. Trust us – that never ends well. Your dates shouldn’t feel like counseling sessions. You do not have to keep all your romantic plans aside because you have to console them. 

They are NEVER available

This is one of the signs you should never ignore. You do not want to be with a person who never replies to your messages, doesn’t take your calls, and NEVER calls back. How do you expect them to be there for you when they don’t even take your calls? 

They do not want you to be friends on social networks

Social networks are an important part of our lives today, so if the person you like uses them but does not want to be online friends, they are hiding something.

Calling you only at night (or when drunk)

If this person likes you, they will not think of you only at night or when they are bored. If you have noticed that they call you and send you messages only in the evening or after drinking alcohol, it is not worth spending your time with them.

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They change their attitude all the time 

One day they treat you like you are the most important person in the world for them, but the next they forget that you exist. Did you go out with this person and have a wonderful time, but the next day they did not write you one message? Well, this person is not interested in you, and you shouldn’t hope that they will change.

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They tell you that they are not ready for a relationship

But that is confusing, right? They don’t want you to be in a relationship, but they still flirt with you and call you? Although it is difficult to accept this, they are probably just using you. If you want something serious, but they always have an excuse why not to start a relationship, it is time to find someone else.

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