Sex has not changed, but there are many more things you should be aware of. There are some things that every sex therapist would want you to know.
Talking is the key to a healthy (and great) sex life
Every sex therapist would tell you that talking about sex can help avoid problems. Sex talk is just as important as having sex. If you feel uncomfortable talking about your sex honestly and openly with your partner, then you won’t share your desires or reveal when there are concerns.
And most importantly, you shouldn’t talk about sex only in the bedroom. Every sex therapist recommends talking about sex over a cup of coffee, while taking a walk, or cuddling. Communicating is the best thing you can do for your sex life.
The vagina cleans itself
Today there are countless deodorants, perfumes, shampoos, and whatnot that promise women that they will feel ‘fresh’, ‘clean’, or ‘beautiful’. The problem is that most women do not realize that the vagina is an organ that cleans itself and applying perfumes and similar products can only cause harm. You should only use a gel made from organic and natural ingredients when you take a shower. This is all you need to keep your vagina healthy and clean.
And it is normal for the vagina to have a specific taste and smell. The vagina should not taste fruity or sweet. Women’s goal should be to maintain the health of the vagina, and both men and women should be aware that the vagina will always have a specific taste and smell.
Note: If the vagina smells bad, then it is best to consult a gynecologist.
You can ‘attach’ a sexually transmitted disease with oral sex
Many people believe that penetration is needed to transmit a sexually transmitted disease. But this is not true.
Many sexually transmitted diseases, as well as various infections, can be transmitted through oral sex. Therefore, if you are with a new partner, use protection for oral sex as well.
It is okay to be sexually attracted to others
Attraction happens even if you are happily married, so you don’t have to feel guilty about it! Committing doesn’t rewire our physiology to no longer experience desire or attractiveness outside of our partners.
You will very likely be attracted to other people even if you are madly in love with your partner. This does not mean you want to pursue anything sexual or emotional with that person. So, feeling attractiveness is one thing, but acting on it is a whole other thing.
A woman can get pregnant on any day of the month
Every woman has a ‘fertile period’ – a few days around ovulation when she has the best chance of pregnancy. But this does not mean that she cannot get pregnant on other days.
Firstly, a woman cannot be completely sure when she is ovulating. Secondly, some women can ovulate twice a month, meaning more fertile days! Also, the sperm can survive for up to five days in a woman’s body, so sometimes a woman can become pregnant even if she had sex before the day of ovulation.
Lubricant is necessary for anal sex
Yes, we know anal sex is still a taboo subject, but if you enjoy it, it is important to get it right.
The lubricant is necessary in this case because unlike the vagina, the anal opening does not moisten itself. By using a lubricant, you will avoid possible injuries, but you will also enjoy anal sex much more.