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Things that every sex therapist would want you to know

Ignorance of sex and everything related to it can be the main reason for bad sex, but also sexually transmitted diseases or unwanted pregnancy.

Sex has not changed, but there are many more things you should be aware of. There are some things that every sex therapist would want you to know.

Talking is the key to a healthy (and great) sex life

Every sex therapist would tell you that talking about sex can help avoid problems. Sex talk is just as important as having sex. If you feel uncomfortable talking about your sex honestly and openly with your partner, then you won’t share your desires or reveal when there are concerns.

And most importantly, you shouldn’t talk about sex only in the bedroom. Every sex therapist recommends talking about sex over a cup of coffee, while taking a walk, or cuddling. Communicating is the best thing you can do for your sex life.

The vagina cleans itself

Today there are countless deodorants, perfumes, shampoos, and whatnot that promise women that they will feel ‘fresh’, ‘clean’, or ‘beautiful’. The problem is that most women do not realize that the vagina is an organ that cleans itself and applying perfumes and similar products can only cause harm. You should only use a gel made from organic and natural ingredients when you take a shower. This is all you need to keep your vagina healthy and clean.

And it is normal for the vagina to have a specific taste and smell. The vagina should not taste fruity or sweet. Women’s goal should be to maintain the health of the vagina, and both men and women should be aware that the vagina will always have a specific taste and smell.

Note: If the vagina smells bad, then it is best to consult a gynecologist.

You can ‘attach’ a sexually transmitted disease with oral sex

Many people believe that penetration is needed to transmit a sexually transmitted disease. But this is not true.

Many sexually transmitted diseases, as well as various infections, can be transmitted through oral sex. Therefore, if you are with a new partner, use protection for oral sex as well.

It is okay to be sexually attracted to others

Attraction happens even if you are happily married, so you don’t have to feel guilty about it! Committing doesn’t rewire our physiology to no longer experience desire or attractiveness outside of our partners.

You will very likely be attracted to other people even if you are madly in love with your partner. This does not mean you want to pursue anything sexual or emotional with that person. So, feeling attractiveness is one thing, but acting on it is a whole other thing.

A woman can get pregnant on any day of the month

Every woman has a ‘fertile period’ – a few days around ovulation when she has the best chance of pregnancy. But this does not mean that she cannot get pregnant on other days.

Firstly, a woman cannot be completely sure when she is ovulating. Secondly, some women can ovulate twice a month, meaning more fertile days! Also, the sperm can survive for up to five days in a woman’s body, so sometimes a woman can become pregnant even if she had sex before the day of ovulation.

Lubricant is necessary for anal sex

Yes, we know anal sex is still a taboo subject, but if you enjoy it, it is important to get it right.

The lubricant is necessary in this case because unlike the vagina, the anal opening does not moisten itself. By using a lubricant, you will avoid possible injuries, but you will also enjoy anal sex much more.

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What is it like to have a threesome?

Well, before having a threesome, you need to make sure the bed is big enough for all of you to sleep in together afterward.

Okay, having a threesome now is not the best idea given the pandemic, but the idea of more people in the bedroom stays the most popular sexual bucket list activities.

Our advice is to have a threesome in healthier times, but if you don’t want to put your whole life on wait, just do that with someone you trust. Okay, now back to the most popular fantasy. And no, a threesome isn’t a male fantasy that pop culture tries to portray. There are many reasons why women would want a threesome. So, no matter if you are a girl or a boy, you should be encouraged to explore it if it turns you on.

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Whether you are in a committed relationship and you want to invite someone else in your bed, or you look to join a couple as their unicorn, or you just want to try something new amongst friends, a threesome is easier to have than you would think.

Yes, there should be planning involved, and the most important thing is that everyone is on board with the rules.

What actually happens during the threesome?

You don’t have to be nervous – it’s still sex, and you know that you enjoy having sex. But, you will probably start with some booze, so everyone can relax a bit. During the foreplay, of course, there will be a lot of kissing and going down on each other. You can go down on someone, while you ride the face of the other person. And then, you can try every sex position that you want.

It is your choice whether you will get fucked by both of them or you will just fuck them. But, you should be open to new things. You would never know whether you like your butthole to be touched unless you try!

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What if the threesome doesn’t go the way you’d imagined?

Well, at least you tried, and don’t forget that everything gets better with practice. Wink, wink. It can be overwhelming and not as cohesive as you expect. But it can also be fun and balanced, and even a lot more fun than you thought it would be. If this is a fantasy of yours, we encourage you to try it!

Things to know before trying threesome

Everyone is stressed about whether it will be okay. But the more relaxed you are, the better the sex will be.
Be open to try new things. So, any hot ideas you have been too shy to try before, throw them in now! You are doing something outside your comfort zone, so lean out.
If you are a couple, don’t make your unicorn your therapist.
Have extra condoms, even if it is one guy and two women.
Music will help to set the mood.
Do not spend time spiraling in advance over what goes where and who is doing what.

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Gwyneth Paltrow released her first vibrator

Gwyneth Paltrow is no stranger to selling a variety of wonderful wellness products, like her bondage-style bras, vagina-scented candles, and crystal-infused water bottles.

Gwyneth Paltrow on her healthy lifestyle platform Goop has sold vibrators for many years, but the brand has never created one. Until now.

When you think of Gwyneth Paltrow’s lifestyle and wellness brand, Goop, expensive vagina-related products probably come to mind. Who remembers the gold vibrator that cost $15,000? We certainly do! Oh, and do you remember the controversial jade egg or the 24-karat gold sex toy? And no one can forget the instantly-viral candle – “This Smells like My Vagina” that sold out in two hours.

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Well, this Valentine’s Day, Goop added an item to their repertoire: the brand’s first vibrator.

Meet Gwyneth Paltrow’s extraordinary vibrator

She announced her vibrator with an original post on Instagram. It is a pink and white vibrator, which is sold for $95 on the brand’s site. The intimate ‘wand’ doubles as a ‘massager’ and comes equipped with practical parts, such as a battery with an LED display. The vibrator has already sold out – and has a growing waitlist.

The new Double-Sided Wand Vibrator includes a bendy, slim end for internal or clitoral or internal stimulation and a ball-shaped wand for external vibrations. Both sides offer 8 pulsating patterns, and they vary in intensity. So, you will get 64 different combinations to choose from.

The vibrator’s LED battery life is one of the features that you will appreciate the most. It allows you to see how much charge you have left, thus you will avoid the awkward moment when your toy dies just as things are getting so much better. Her team spent a year and a half developing the vibrator, and they accomplished creating a toy that is pure art.

They also wanted the vibrator to be user-friendly and versatile for anyone, regardless of people’s experience level. So, the vibrator’s pulsating patterns and unique sensations will bring satisfaction to an experienced vibrator user, but it will also be approachable for a first-time user.

Of course, the vibrator’s silicone is “body-safe” and hypo-allergenic as well as chemical-free.

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Sex is an important topic for Gwyneth Paltrow’s Goop

Sex is always an important topic for her brand Goop. The media empire is constantly boosting interest in sexuality and health through a series of announcements, workshops, podcasts, and even Netflix’s new The Goop Lab, which it’s a must-watch!

Goop’s marketing department insists that vibrators not only help you experience sexual pleasure but also improve sleep, mood, and reduce stress.

Gwyneth Paltrow’s brand always aims to help eliminate shame and encourage sexual exploration. Thira Burns, MS, Goop’s director of product development, wellness, said “We start by listening to experts—and in this case, the best experts are women who are in pursuit of pleasure and seeking more. Through dialogue at past In Goop Health wellness summits, focus groups, and the response to our Netflix show, we learned that there was some simple utility missing from some of the most popular devices.”

What are you waiting for? It’s time for some intensive vibrations!

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The sex scenes in “Bridgerton” are so important

In Netflix’s Bridgerton, the sex scenes aren’t just about naughty titillation (though we must admit they are hot): it’s about identity, freedom, and an exploration of self.

Throughout Bridgerton’s eight episodes, you will enjoy many sex scenes featuring locations from, a rain-soaked folly, a staircase, a beautiful stretch of lawn, and one very creative use of a ladder.

Bridgerton is a handiwork of Shonda Rhimes. She adapted Julia Quinn’s Bridgerton novels that were long known as “Jane Austen with sex”. It is a hit, and if you still haven’t watched it, we strongly advise you to binge-watch it immediately! But even if you did watch it, you should stay and read about the real meaning of Bridgerton’s sex scenes.

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It’s fun, sexy, and maybe a bit silly, but don’t be mistaken – Bridgerton is far more interesting and subversive than it might first appear. The cast will make your eyes water. It boasts wonderful costumes, extravagant sets, and sweeping storylines. It is a joyful, soapy romance, so it will lift your spirits, something which we could all use right now.

Just be warned that you shouldn’t watch this drama series with your parents! On Twitter, one viewer wrote: “Unwittingly watched #Bridgerton with my parents. It got too awkward mid-way through episode, 5 so I faked a coughing fit and went to get a glass of water…for the rest of the series. Learn from my mistakes, friends.”

We won’t talk about the actual storyline because we don’t want this article to be full of spoilers. So, here goes our take on the sex scenes.

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Bridgerton is a delicious tale of hot people and hotter sex

The sex scenes are not there just to be there – but they are important for the journey of the characters. Those scenes are here to tell the story of the sexual awakening that the main character is having. Her journey into discovering her sexuality flips stereotypes in many ways. Her character has been raised to be a lady, so most of those sex scenes are to show how she comes into her sexually. At that time, it was thought that it is improper to tell girls anything about sex. They were supposed to wait and see what happens once they got married.

Daphne experiences some things for the first time with Simon, and she doesn’t know much about sex in general, but that doesn’t mean she should be used in any aspect. During one erotic, rain-soaked assignation, one man whispers to his partner, “Do you like this? Tell me what you want.” Don’t forget that it is important to always get consent from your partner. And that you should care about what they want in bed.

Bridgerton is an amazing feminist TV project

The oral sex between Daphne and Simon was focused on her pleasure, which was a great change to the usual male-gaze we get in movies. So, what makes Bridgerton a feminist TV project is how all the sex is handled, openly reclaiming female pleasure and making its main narrative. Every woman in this world is allowed to enjoy sex without even the smallest hint of shame or self-consciousness.