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Things you need to know before you try pegging

Pegging is still a mystery to some people, but it’s time we all get educated about it.

There are many ways to try prostate play, whether using anal toys or fingering, but there is also pegging and if you are into it, go for it!

Do you know those wonderful, deep, mind-blowing orgasms when you hit your G-spot? Well, people with penises have a G-spot. Yes, we are talking about the prostate. Stimulating their prostates can produce amazing sensations and orgasm.

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Okay, what exactly is pegging?

Pegging is when anyone without a penis wears a harness with a strap-on dildo and penetrates their partner anally. Don’t worry – the dildo can be as small or big as you want! So, you need to give your penis-having partner a butt action!

And yes, people of all gender identities and sexualities can use a strap-on, but pegging usually refers to a male being penetrated by a female. If your partner is a man, and you’re a woman, you should know that pegging is still heterosexual sex.

If you are ready for a change in your sex life, experimenting with pegging will change the ways in how both of you give and receive pleasure. However, pegging won’t change your sexual orientations. So, no, pegging, or anal penetration in general, is not “gay.”

How to find your partner’s prostate

To pleasure your partner’s prostate, first, you need to find it. The prostate is the male G-spot, and you can read everything about it here. And like the female G-spot, the male G-spot responds to firm but gentle pressure, massage, and come-hither movement.

It is like a kidney-bean-sized gland, located inside your partner’s anus about 2 to 3 inches in on the front side of their body. It is easier to find it if your partner is turned on because it swells and becomes firmer during arousal.

Pegging means power

With pegging, you can play with gender roles and power. It is an amazing sexual play in deliciously wrong space. The taboos that surround this sex act make for more satisfaction. You should know that penetration will be vulnerable, especially for a man who is unfamiliar with the feeling.

Many women enjoy the power of being in charge of the thrusting. It can feel scary and intimidating at first, but being the one who is controlling the sex can be hot! Pegging will give you the power of controlling pleasure and pace. You will experience a whole other emotional experience, and so will be your partner.

What will you need for successful pegging?

Making sure you get the right equipment is important for having a wonderful first experience. Here are the things you will need:

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Dildos. Choose dildos that will fit your partner’s ass. It is better to start smaller and move up with time. You need to make this a positive experience for your partner, and not a painful one. Also, you should choose soft silicone.
A solid strap on harness. You should get a quality, two-strap harness. Well, nobody wants a floppy dildo, right? Or you can choose an underwear harness or a corset type.
Lube. Okay, we think this one is obvious. Lubrication is the most important since the ass is not self-lubricating. Choose a water-based lubricant, which is good for pegging or other toy plays, as well.

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Sings that your partner is selfish in bed

Sex with your partner should provide pleasure, enjoyment, passion, and connection, but that’s nearly impossible if your partner is selfish in bed.

To experience all the beautiful things sex offers, you both shouldn’t be selfish in bed – you need to be equally involved.

Although orgasm is not and does not always have to be the goal when we have sex, when it is present, it should be the culmination reached by both of you. Today, women talk about sex more openly than ever, and many of them admit that they are still deprived of the big O. Women who have selfish partners, see orgasm as something unattainable and something that does not come naturally to them.

Orgasm is achievable when both of you strive for it. But if you are one of those women who don’t achieve orgasms very often, you may simply have a selfish partner who is not ready to satisfy your needs. Below you will find five things that point to this.

You do all the work

If your partner is constantly passive and constantly expects you do all the work, it is a sign that he is selfish during sex. Activity during foreplay, oral pleasure, and effort during sex should be equal. No partner should expect the other to do everything and enjoy the pleasure without giving anything in return.

He avoids foreplay

For many women, foreplay is a very important part of sexual intercourse, and many cannot have an orgasm without it. If your partner avoids that part and immediately goes to sex, it is a sign that he is selfish and he wants to satisfy only his needs.

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The importance of foreplay for an amazing orgasm

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He doesn’t fulfill your wishes

You should not keep to yourself any desires, fantasies, and things you want in sex. But if you tell your partner about them and he refuses to even try to fulfill those fantasies, you should know that your partner is selfish in bed. Okay, we know that no one should ever do things that make them feel bad during sex, but if your partner refuses things like foreplay, changing poses, or getting involved in sex, you need to talk more about all of this to see if there are other issues or if he is selfish.

Your partner is focused only on his needs

Sex should always be an activity enjoyed by both of you. If your partner asks you to do something that only he wants or if he gets angry when you refuse to do something that makes you feel bad, it is a sign that he is selfish. Also, your partner should not be focused only on his orgasm during sex, but also on your desires.

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Your partner believes that he has the right to have sex whenever he wants

Selfishness in sex is often manifested in the demand for sex and rejection. A person who thinks he has the right to have sex at any time and who can say “no” to you, but does not accept “no” from you, is not only selfish but also dangerous.

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Mistakes men make in bed

Sex is amazing, of course. But sometimes, either when men try something new or when they are caught up in the moment, the sex can be no so good.

Men, it is really important to be good in bed, because if you do not have the moves and skills to satisfy women, they will be quick to let you go.

Here are the sex mistakes men make in bed way too often. These things they do during sex can end up killing the mood. Dudes, make sure you aren’t doing any of them.

What makes a woman good in bed?

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They move too quickly to genital touch

When they finally understand how long it takes to arouse a lady, they want to start the process immediately. They like their genitals stimulated directly, so they assume women would want the same. However, they should allow the woman to prepare psychologically because the early stimulation is not exciting for women. Instead, you should spend some time massaging and kissing her whole body.

Stimulating her vagina instead of her clitoris

For the last time – what you feel on your penis is not what women feel in their vaginas. Feeling in the penis is based on touch, but in the vagina, the sensation is created by pressure and stretch. For women, the clitoris parallels penile sensation (except her anatomy is more sensitive and delicate). The clitoris is the center of women’s sexual universe. However, it gets harder. Finding the clit is only half of the job. Some of you need to work on their techniques once they are down there. To start, don’t treat the clitoris like you are scrubbing a pan clean.

They have high expectations due to watching porn

Not everything you see on porn can be done in your bedroom. Maybe your partner is not into everything you have seen online and is not physically capable of doing all that stuff, or maybe they just do not want to. Always listen to your woman’s needs – that’s crucial. Porn also skips foreplay-and-lube events, which are important. We know by now that sipping these steps can be painful.

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They do not respond to women’s needs

When a woman tells you to keep going, and she likes it, don’t start to speed up or change your tempo. She liked it the way it was before. If she moans, that does not mean to change into rabbit fuck mode. By rubbing in between the vagina and clitoris up and down (rubbing against the urethra), you can give your partner cystitis, and it does not feel good.

These things are not just about pace, but about knowing whether or not you are cognizant of each other’s verbal and non-verbal cues. Telling your needs and responding to your partner’s needs is the key to amazing sex.

They don’t make sure their partners had an orgasm

Just because you were satisfied, you cannot assume she was too. Unless you made an effort to make it pleasurable enough for her, it may not have happened. Some women need extra help from you to reach the big-O.

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What is it like to have a threesome?

Well, before having a threesome, you need to make sure the bed is big enough for all of you to sleep in together afterward.

Okay, having a threesome now is not the best idea given the pandemic, but the idea of more people in the bedroom stays the most popular sexual bucket list activities.

Our advice is to have a threesome in healthier times, but if you don’t want to put your whole life on wait, just do that with someone you trust. Okay, now back to the most popular fantasy. And no, a threesome isn’t a male fantasy that pop culture tries to portray. There are many reasons why women would want a threesome. So, no matter if you are a girl or a boy, you should be encouraged to explore it if it turns you on.

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Is it okay that I want a threesome with my partner?

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Whether you are in a committed relationship and you want to invite someone else in your bed, or you look to join a couple as their unicorn, or you just want to try something new amongst friends, a threesome is easier to have than you would think.

Yes, there should be planning involved, and the most important thing is that everyone is on board with the rules.

What actually happens during the threesome?

You don’t have to be nervous – it’s still sex, and you know that you enjoy having sex. But, you will probably start with some booze, so everyone can relax a bit. During the foreplay, of course, there will be a lot of kissing and going down on each other. You can go down on someone, while you ride the face of the other person. And then, you can try every sex position that you want.

It is your choice whether you will get fucked by both of them or you will just fuck them. But, you should be open to new things. You would never know whether you like your butthole to be touched unless you try!

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What if the threesome doesn’t go the way you’d imagined?

Well, at least you tried, and don’t forget that everything gets better with practice. Wink, wink. It can be overwhelming and not as cohesive as you expect. But it can also be fun and balanced, and even a lot more fun than you thought it would be. If this is a fantasy of yours, we encourage you to try it!

Things to know before trying threesome

Everyone is stressed about whether it will be okay. But the more relaxed you are, the better the sex will be.
Be open to try new things. So, any hot ideas you have been too shy to try before, throw them in now! You are doing something outside your comfort zone, so lean out.
If you are a couple, don’t make your unicorn your therapist.
Have extra condoms, even if it is one guy and two women.
Music will help to set the mood.
Do not spend time spiraling in advance over what goes where and who is doing what.