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We have a perfect relationship – except we don’t have sex

We can all agree that sex for a new couple is the most exciting thing ever! It happens regularly and you cannot get enough of one another.

However, sex into a long-term relationship can begin to dwindle. This can be normal if it just means you aren’t constantly hungry for adventurous sex.  

You love each other and have an amazing time together. No one can make you laugh as your partner can. You’re sure your current partner is the love of your life. Your friends and family always say how perfect your relationship seems. You agree with them and feel lucky until you realize you didn’t have sex in three months. 

It’s healthy to crave physical expression of love, no matter how wonderful the other aspects of your relationship are. No sex in a relationship is alarming and you must work on it. The problems in your sex life will eventually breed insecurity and resentment into every aspect of your relationship. However, to start working on it, you first need to understand what is going on. Deep down, you have some clue of the roots of your sex problems.

Stress

Sometimes it feels like you’re having too many responsibilities without time to rest. If both of you are stressed out, it could affect negatively on your sex life.

The best thing in such a case is to have a direct conversation. Talk about what you’re willing to do to restart your sex life. Ask each other for help with sex and with the tasks in your life. You need to commit energy and time into rebuilding your sex life.

Different sexual appetites

This is a common case – one person will have a bigger sexual drive. If one of you wants sex more regularly, it will put stress on both of you. Consequently, sex will disappear. 

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Again, the answer here is to talk. Don’t wait until there are anger and resentment that would make it too difficult to rescue the relationship. If you’re the one who wants more sex, then start flirting shamelessly. Once you had the conversation, flirting with your partner is the perfect way to show you’re serious about having exciting sex again. 

Rediscover what turns on your partner and talk openly about what you find exciting. Whatever works for you – just begin being playful again. More action will get you further! Take control of your sex life and fight for the relationship. Your partner will be happy to follow your lead. Include everything you think might work – props, sex toys, food.

However, if the libido of one of you is so low, you should check out physically to see if something deeper is wrong.

Not prioritizing sex

You can easily let other things take priority over your sex life when in a long-term relationship.

However, this has an easy solution – start prioritizing it! If you have to, schedule a weekly sex date. This may sound you unsexy now, but scheduled sex can get you in the mood. When you have a sex date on your calendar, you’re more likely to plan something different and fun for the night.

However, if something else is the problem, you should see a therapist together. If not, with some effort of both of you, you can live sexually ever after! 

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Fast ways to turn yourself on

Consider these go-to hacks for when you need to orgasm, like, now. Sometimes you need to turn yourself on between Zoom calls or right before a work meeting.

Okay, so sometimes you just need to turn yourself on fast. We don’t always have time to prime our bodies for a long, sensual masturbation session.

How many times does your body ask you for an immediate orgasm? The answer is many times.  And girl, you should know that your body should never be denied its desires. Yes, we all prefer face masks, oils, steamy novels, a vibrator, but it is what it is. So, when you do not have time to commit to the long masturbating experience, it does not mean you have to deprive your body of an orgasm. It just means you need our horny hacks. 

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We will help you to learn how to turn yourself on fast! However, that doesn’t mean that it will be less enjoyable or fun than a full-on masturbating session. 

Get undressed in front of a mirror

Nothing is sexier than you! You just need to turn yourself on by seeing how hot you are. Also, you can lounge around in your hot lingerie when you are alone at home. Put on your sexiest, laciest piece, and enjoy your time. 

Activate your senses to turn yourself on 

Your senses are directly related to your libido, duh. You should eat some aphrodisiacs (like nuts or chocolate), play some music that makes you feel like a sex goddess, set the mood by adjusting the lighting right, put some sensual sheets like silk, and spritz the perfume that makes you horny.

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Create a sexual fantasy 

We know that sex scenes on TV are great, and porn is even better. But you will turn yourself on quickly if you create your sexual fantasy because it is yours! And you decide what happens there. The mental images of your sexual fantasy will get you where you want to be fast! 

Focus on your breath to turn yourself on fast 

By focusing on your breath, you will easily get out of your head. Close your eyes and breathe slowly and deeply. You can also try different breathing patterns – like, holding your breath in for five seconds and see what feels best for you.

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Compile a stash of erotic clips, images, and/or stories

You should have a private file on your phone – compiling many things that will turn you on immediately. Put on your earbuds and listen to hot stories or sounds while you scroll through pictures and clips that do it for you.

Take a hot shower 

Okay, we all have time for a shower, right? So, when you are already wet, slippery, and soupy, glide your fingers over your most sensitive areas. Use your fingers, washcloth, or sponge to turn yourself on. You do not even have to masturbate yet, but focus on touching yourself sensitively. Caress your thighs, chest, nipples, neck, and all those small erogenous zones you don’t pay much attention to when you masturbate. 

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What are the things men (don’t) want in bed?

If you are just a little curious about what men may crave in the bedroom, we get you. Men don’t communicate a lot, so we are here to the rescue!

Okay, yes, we highly recommend you to initiate a sex talk because great communication means great sex. However, if you also want to figure out what you want to talk about before talking about it, well, we got you! 

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Stop licking their face – men hate that

According to men, this is something just for the screens. You are not sexy and you won’t turn him on. 

Men want to take it out of the bedroom

They love variety. So, you need to keep it exciting by exploring new areas to have sex, such as the laundry room, kitchen table, in the car, or even outside. Playing in new places can lead to more fun. Also, you get the opportunity to role-play.

Missionary is not the only one sex position

Sisters, don’t be lazy! Explore, there are many exciting sex positions you should try! 

Sex positions that will satisfy all your cravings

Initiate sex sometimes

Many men feel like they always have to initiate sex with their partners, and that annoys them. Men like to feel attractive and desired, so you should consider seducing your partner. If you initiate sex, you will send the message to your partner that you want him, and that will boost his confidence. 

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Squeeze his penis firmly when he is close to orgasm

If you are giving him a blow job, when you see that he is coming to the end, place your hand over the base of his penis (just below the bladder). Press firmly and rub back and forth as you massage the area. This will intensify things.

Move the hand and mouth in the opposite direction

It seems logical to move the hand and mouth in the same motion, but obviously, the logic is not sexy. Most men will feel better if you move your mouth and hand in the opposite direction – when the hand goes up, the mouth moves down, so that they constantly meet in the middle.

Men want you to actively participate

To actively participate you should grind your hips, meeting his thrusts with your thrusts, and flex your PC muscles. These things you can do from whatever position. Also, use your hands to squeeze his arms and pull his body closer to yours. Don’t forget to use your lips to explore his body. These moves will let him know that you are into the action. 

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They want to be dominated 

Of course, they want to dominate you, but from time to time men want to do nothing at all. They want you to have control. If you are new to this, you can start by telling him he cannot touch, talk, or move unless he is told to. Tell your partner that you will punish him if he doesn’t follow your directions or disobeys. Boss him around and tell him how you want to be touched. Directing his every move will make him squirm. Don’t forget to remind him that you are in control.

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What do women hate in bed?

For all the men out there not trying hard enough in bed, here are the things you are doing horribly wrong. Women hate some things in bed.

It has been said that sex is like pizza: even bad pizza is better than no pizza at all. But this is not right! No one is supposed to constantly endure things they hate in bed! 

Finding out what your partner hates in bed takes time, and most people have to gain trust before they will discuss their intimate desires. However, these are some things that most women hate in bed.

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Women hate when you skip foreplay

Okay, guys, 10 seconds of kissing is not foreplay! No, neither is a short fumble around her breasts. Wait, save your eye rolls and groans. Women don’t ask for an hour-long, hot massage (not that they mind!). It takes time for women to warm up and for their bodies to respond to yours. It takes more for them to get aroused, regardless of their age. Simply sticking it in looks amateur at best and selfish at worst. You will make your partner feel more objectified than wanted. 

Trying to last for hours

Tell us, do you want a masseur massaging one spot for half an hour? Well, that is how women feel when they have a marathon intercourse session. If you are still going after 12 minutes (which according to many studies is the perfect length of time for a session) check if your partner is still connecting.

Women hate when you insist on them to orgasm 

Sometimes it is clear she is not going to orgasm. Just read the room! We don’t say that the reason is you; there can be many reasons that have nothing to do with you. Don’t get offended if she cannot. And more importantly, don’t insist! 

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Giving her the silent treatment

You can be a hot guy who is amazing with his hands and everything, but if you are silent as a log, you are not as good as you think you are. Your partner will feel like you are bored having sex with her. Can you dance with no music? Well, that is like having sex with a mute. Maybe dirty talk is not your thing, but it won’t kill you if you give her a moan or two. Women want to know they are pleasing you, and that you are still breathing. 

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Women hate when you refuse to use condoms

IT seems like everyone is having sex without condoms nowadays. It is kind of scary. We are all for casual sex, but not for casually contracting an STD. Don’t try to talk her out if your partner insists that you wear a condom. It is rude and inconsiderate! It does not matter if she is on the pill or you just got tested. Women are more physiologically susceptible to STDs than men, and not to mention the risk of unwanted pregnancy. We know that sex feels better without a condom, but life feels better without herpes. Also, do not try to get it in raw just for the beginning. Last we checked – chlamydia does not adhere to a ten-second rule.

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