You cannot just make yourself get wet, and it is frustrating when you are horny, but your body is not on the same page.
Among the many wonderful things a vagina can do, self-lubrication might not be a big achievement, but it deserves more credit. Lubrication makes all the difference when it comes to having amazing sex. And women have a built-in lubrication system in their bodies!
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Read this article if you are curious to learn about some common reasons you may not be getting wet.
The reason why you are not getting wet might be dehydration
Dehydration can be the reason behind any vaginal dryness. Since the cells are composed mostly of water, poor water intake can cause many harmful effects on the body, including vaginal dryness.
But this problem has an easy fix though. You should just work to stay consistently hydrated. And if not drinking enough water is the only reason for your dryness, you will see improvements in about three days!
You are skipping the foreplay
Many studies have shown that it takes the vagina about 10-45 minutes to get fully aroused. So, if you are one of those couples whose sex lasts less than 15 minutes, don’t be surprised why you don’t get wet properly.
You should give enough time to get fully turned on or engaged in the foreplay. Our bodies are not like on and off switches, so you need to take the time and enjoy the foreplay. This, too, has an easy solution. Make sure you have enough time, slow down, and give yourself the needed time to let yourself become aroused and wet!
Antidepressants might be a cause for not getting wet
We all know that antidepressants impact our libidos, but they can also interfere with vaginal lubrication. To solve this problem, you should talk to your psychiatrist about taking different medications until you find the ones that suit you best for your mental and sexual health.
Imbalanced hormones
A decrease in estrogen levels after childbirth, during breastfeeding, menopause, or perimenopause can be the reason for a dry vagina. Be aware that cancer treatments like pelvic radiation and chemotherapy can lead to a decrease in estrogen levels as well. That will result in a decrease in vaginal lubrication.
You are disconnected from your body during sex
If you aren’t present at the moment and don’t enjoy it, this might be also a factor for dryness. If you are not connected with your body, you are not allowing your body to fully be turned on. And the arousal is what gets the fluids pumping.
It is hard to get wet when you are stressed out and not focusing on sex. Practice breathing exercises and mindfulness to connect with your body during sex. The more connected you are, the more you can allow yourself to be aroused.
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Your partner can’t make you wet
Yep, this is a thing. Sometimes you can get wet just because you are having issues with your sexual partner. If your partner is not doing what he/she should, or he/she is, but it is not working for you, you are not going to be wet. You need to be sexually attracted to the person who touches your vagina.